Now is the Time to Talk About It


I’m not sure it really needs to be said, and nevertheless I am compelled to say something. I am feeling such anguish over the turmoil and tragedies that have been coming at rapid fire over the past few weeks and quite honestly, since November. In recent weeks, devastating hurricanes, earthquakes, peaceful protest of grave injustice being willfully misconstrued as something entirely different, and now another truly horrific mass shooting. I’m losing sleep, I am in a fog, I find it very hard to focus. I have always known I am an empathetic person but since November this has become literally painful as I struggle to process each new attack on the liberties and well-being of one marginalized group after another. I want to make it very clear that even when I am posting about craft projects, recipes, books and more, it certainly does not mean I am ignoring what is going on in the world. Quite the contrary. But all of those hobbies are, in part, coping mechanisms for me. Making something beautiful, doing something to feel good in the midst of anger, sadness, and confusion is one way I deal. Of course there are also concrete actions I take to help these various causes, but I don’t advertise it. That is not the point.

When we redesigned the site, we made sure to create space for personal writings. I newly ventured into this last fall, much to the dismay of some who prefer a smooth veneer of superficiality, to some who are made very uncomfortable by a woman who unapologetically speaks her mind, to many who said I should “stick to the food.” Stick to the food, as though I’m a one-dimensional being, not a mother or a friend or a doctor or a human in this world, but rather a mindless recipe generator, please and thank you. If you don’t like it you are free not to read it. I want to talk about these things, and I intend to do so, but only to the point that my heart can bear, so please be patient with me while I am patient with myself. Over the past few weeks I have wanted to discuss some of these issues but they have come at such a rapid pace I haven’t been able to keep up. With this most recent tragedy, the 273rd mass shooting in our country THIS YEAR, I must say something because I simply don’t know what else to do.

To those who say now is not the time to have this discussion, oh yes, it absolutely is. Those that shush us as we speak out right now, that say not to politicize a tragedy, bish please. Damn straight it’s political. It already was! When our politicians could make real change to enact common sense gun laws, but instead tweet their thoughts and prayers and look the other way, it is political. The notion that we shouldn’t update our very outdated gun laws to reflect the changes in weapon technology is illogical and flat out wrong.

I don’t know if it will ever be possible for our society to value human lives (actual lives, not balls of cells) over the weapon industry and whatever false sense of liberty it gives to some people. The NRA generates massive revenue through a combination of brainwashing and scare tactics, and uses that revenue to help elect politicians who continue to deregulate their industry, meanwhile making those they supposedly represent less safe every day. I don’t have many answers. I do know one thing, though. I know that thoughts and prayers are not enough. Yesterday every member of congress that received campaign funding from the NRA sent their thoughts and prayers but made no mention of reform. My kids can’t hide behind thoughts and prayers when someone aims a gun at them, and they shouldn’t have to. All we can do right now is keep contacting our representatives, demanding gun reform, and when the opportunity comes, elect others who can enact real change. Will reform be a guarantee against future attacks? No. But it’s a really great place to start.

Call your representatives over and over and over again: (202) 224-3121.

Text “resist” to 50409 to contact them easily whenever you like. (Resist Bot is AWESOME.)

I’m hugging my kids tighter, sending love to everyone affected by this tragedy, and to everyone hurting, know that I’m with you.

A Note

A portion of this month’s site revenue will be donated to
Moms Demand Action For Gun Sense in America.

  • I just want to say thank you for speaking out and know how much I’ve appreciated your candor the past few months. I didn’t know about the resist bot and I will add that to my list!

  • Clare Barboza

    You, lady, have become infinitely more awesome in my mind as you speak your truth, loudly and honestly. And I could not agree more with everything you have said. xo

  • Michelle machado

    Thank you so much Annie. You always make me feel better, and sane after things like this. It’s always great to hear my own thoughts echoed, much more eloquently, from people that I admire. You are so much more than just a recipe making blogger, I came for the food, I stayed for the humanity.

  • Dena Snyder

    I so respect you using your platform for good in this way. Please keep it up. Your recipes taste better to me mixed in with some social justice. Resist!

  • Annie

    Ha! I love that. Thank you so much, Dena.

  • Annie

    Thank you Michelle. I truly appreciate it.

  • Annie

    Thank you, my dear. It means a lot. So glad to know you. xo

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Sara. Resist bot is a super convenient way to get in touch with your senators, congresspeople and more. The more you use it, the more it lets you customize. It is great to be able to fire off a letter about whatever the issue of the day/week is whenever, wherever.

  • Jenna Mulandi

    Thank you for this! I don’t think this article is listed in your reading list, and it might be worth adding (I’ve only just started, for full disclosure).

  • Kristin

    Thank you so much for this, Annie. I so appreciate your social justice passion. Calling is on my agenda for today.

  • I’m always grateful when you speak up. How do those people who wish you’d “stick to the food” react to your annual Earth Day posts? Caring for our environment isn’t inherently food-related, but it’s vanilla enough that I’d be willing to bet no one bats an eye. You have a platform that you built yourself. No one handed you the audience you have, and no one is forced to read your opinions, but they should. You foster open discussion on important issues. You’re a great role model for women everywhere. Keep doing what you do!

  • thatchicchick

    Thank you. I’m making a donation to Moms Demand Action right now.

  • SM

    Thank you, Annie. I have felt hopeless after hearing about the events in Las Vegas and especially, as you have noted, on the heels of everything else. Reading your post reminded me of Resist Bot and I thought, “There. That is something I can do right now.” A small action and one that, being in a staunchly conservative state, I know may not make a huge impact–but it is something. And my representatives know that one more person is watching and demanding action.

  • Annie

    Thank you Saraha. I’m in the same boat here in Indiana with one (moderate) democratic senator and a sea of red otherwise. But resist bot has become what I turn to whenever I have those moments of futile rage when I badly want to do something but just don’t know what. Keep calling and writing and hopefully we will be heard with time and persistence.

  • Annie

    Thank you very much!

  • Annie

    Excellent point and you are right, no one has ever made a negative comment about those posts. I figure even if people don’t like what I have to say initially, I might make a tiny little crack in their ideology where someday, something more open might grow. I appreciate the support!

  • Annie

    Thank you so much, and thanks in advance for calling!

  • Annie

    Thank you!

  • Sarah E. Rieger

    You absolutely have the right to say what you want, especially on your platform. (Like I really need to tell you that.) I think we need more people talking and opening dialogue about all the hurt that is happening in the world. And for that I am grateful. As a neighbor in Ohio, I too feel the strain of the sea of red. #resist

  • Danita Day

    I’ve been a fan of your site for a few years now and I like the newly expanded Annie experience. It feels honest and from the heart. I have had many days like yesterday where focusing at work or just being angry at the latest news have made me sad and I wonder if this is the new normal. I am hopeful it’s not and having a voice, calling, writing, voting, donating time or money to issues one cares about are what I hope will bring change.

  • Ashley

    Thank you for writing this. Yesterday my Facebook timehop came up with an article about when is enough enough from TWO YEARS AGO (Oregon shooting). And I felt a sense of utter dismay that apparently the answer is never.

    P.S. Is your instagram gone? I use it for new post updates, and when I get on mobile, it’s showing posts from awhile back.

  • Callie

    Bish please is right. So much respect for you and how you speak your mind in such an intelligent way. Like you, I am an empathetic person and the world, especially the last year, is so hard to process. I relate so much to these posts that you do. I’m Canadian so don’t feel like there’s too much I can do to help change the laws down there, but I will keep sharing messages like yours in hopes that it reaches people who can contact their representatives.

  • Annie

    It is total dismay, but that’s the convenient answer. Now is not the time to talk about gun control, now is not the right time for black people to protest, or maybe it’s the time, but not this way, etc etc. Enough already! We have to address these issues, period.

    It’s still there, and you are still following if you were before, but the handle is now everydayannieblog.

  • Annie

    Thank you Callie! I appreciate the support.

  • Annie

    Thank you Sarah. I appreciate it, and I’m with you!

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Danita. I truly appreciate it. One thing that brings me a small amount of comfort is that, while this state of sadness and anger continues, it means that no, this isn’t the new normal because we still react to it. I continue to believe and hope that it is temporary, and that my kids and grandkids will look back and be like “WTF?!” and I’ll be like, “Yeah, I don’t know what happened but glad we persisted.”

  • Ashley

    I agree 100%.

  • Brook

    YES! Thank you! Just because we are comedians or cooks or random folks working in a bland office building on the north side, doesn’t mean we can’t have, and express, our opinions! This morning’s emails (to Brooks, Donnelly and Young) contained the subject line: Yes, you’re hearing from me again on guns! Do something!

    Don’t stop writing. Don’t stop calling. Don’t stop working for a better future!

  • Angela

    I am, as always, so floppity jacking proud of you. (I cannot swear around my students, so I am trying so hard to find other ways to say the salty things that express things better). This is powerful, Annie. My favourite part is how you discuss how you are not a single dimension recipe generator. You, doctor, mother, wife, friend, knitter, citizen,…, are amazing and a source of inspiration and education. Standing with you as you kick asphalt (much less satisfying than swearing, I tell you what), as you discuss politics, as you stand for social justice, as you discuss rad lipstick, as you cook and bake, as you exist.

  • Annie

    Thank you, thank you! Ugh, Brooks is my rep too and she enrages me! Did you know she’s voted yes to 97.5% of Trump’s agenda :( So so disappointing. I love to toy with the idea of unseating her, or someone else if it continues to be a GOP controlled district in the future.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Angela! Ryan (my BFF and The One Who Makes My Website Amazing) said (paraphrasing) “it’s such bullshit that you even need those paragraphs justifying having your voice” and he’s right but, I am also glad I have the opportunity to say it.

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  • Annie

    Thank you so much Melissa. I saw that story too. I have cried many tears over the past two days. I feel helpless often but if my using this platform helps even a little bit, then I’ll be glad for it. I appreciate the support.

  • Kelsey

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for being a strong woman, outspoken advocate, and unabashed supporter of real change and equality. Your actions–OUR actions–can and will make this world a better place. We may be exhausted, but we will not stop. Man am I proud to call you my friend.

  • Lauren Ochoa

    People need to understand that just because we may be the ones who always show up with cupcakes doesn’t mean we are June Cleavers who leave the thinkin’ and the politickin’ to others (like the old white men who think we should do just that). I don’t have a public forum like a blog but I wholeheartedly support you using yours as a platform for speaking out. I personally spoke out to my boss the other day (who I like and respect but who has very different views than I do) about my support for NFL players using their position to speak out against social injustice and it felt far more powerful than re-posting or sharing all of the tired memes in the world. These issues need to be discussed and we need to be brave in sharing our beliefs even if it offends or annoys some. I truly believe that we are witnessing the dying gasps of a soon to be extinct way of life but it hurts my soul to wonder how many more will have to die before we overcome?

  • Grace

    You are amazing, and it comforts me knowing that there are other people in this country who feel the same way I do. I have been a reader since the beginning, and love the metamorphosis of your blog.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Grace!

  • Annie

    I agree 100%. I have had a few small meaningful conversations like that with one of my colleagues who I believe in the past has been of a different mindset. Over time I think I am helping him see this side of things. It is encouraging.

  • Melanie

    I’m with you 100%. I don’t just don’t understand. I saw Dan Rather on TV yesterday. He said if this happened in Pakistan we would be talking about how inhuman and violent their culture is. But not here, here we say its just the price we have to pay for freedom. He is absolute right. I’ll never understand how we can justify these attacks.
    I think we should send our thoughts and prayers. However what these people forget, is that prayer isn’t a one way street. When we pray, we pray for answers and healing. When He answers our prayers, He requires us to act. To get off our ass and do something about the problem. It’s not a passive act. So they need to start listening to the answer to their prayers, and I’m pretty sure the answer isn’t just be sad and wait for the next act of mass murder! Sorry to get preachy, but the hypocrisy just makes me so mad.

  • Tiara Renoll

    I have been a long time reader and wanted to let you know that I am baking cookies for some of the heroes using your recipes! So in that way you are helping Vegas, one cookie at a time.

  • Molly KA

    Annie, thank you.

  • Jenny Boling

    Well said, Annie. Thanks for sharing and posting.

  • Sarah

    THANK YOU. I’m so damn mad and can’t not do anything. Thank you for using your platform to educate in so many different ways.

  • lisap515

    Thank you Annie! I love your blog and that you feel inspired to be unapologetic-ally you! The past almost year has been so heavy it becomes hard to breath (especially as a mother, sister, doctor, HUMAN!). We ALL need to find ways to use our voices and actions for good. Thank you again for your thoughts and hopefully it encourages some one, even if just one, person to think more progressively.

  • Diane

    As I read through the comments here, I have to say I’m actually pretty disappointed. Not because people agree or don’t agree with you, but because the overall attitude is that people who view things differently (Republicans, convservatives, etc.) are seen as the enemy. I don’t understand this. It seems that as long as people agree with you and think the same way you do, everything is well and good. Being open-minded means you can think about and consider other ideas besides your own. You don’t have to agree with them, but you can at least understand that there are people who feel as strongly about their views and ideas as you do yours. It doesn’t make them wrong or bad or anything else. After I commented on your Instagram post saying that I don’t feel stricter gun control laws would make much of a difference, I did a little research and considered your (respectful–thank you) response. It got me thinking that maybe it would make a difference. Maybe it wouldn’t, but it would be worth a try. People can still own guns, but why can’t there be more laws in place to make it harder for evil people to get their hands on one? I watched a video of Obama talking about how whenever Democrats talk about gun control, conservatives get fired up and think their guns are going to be taken away. It really got me thinking about how sometimes we become so set in our ways that we absolutely refuse to see that the other side has a point or a good idea. We don’t want to agree with anything they say because they are different, they are the enemy. I believe we really need to focus on common ground and learn to compromise, not try to persuade everyone to think the same way we do. Google “Lady Gaga and Dalai Lama discuss kindness.” She has some very wise words.

  • Annie

    Agreed! Thank you Lisa :)

  • Annie

    Thanks Sarah.

  • Annie

    Thank you Jenny.

  • Annie

    I cannot tell you how happy this made me. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • Annie

    I agree. Thanks Melanie :)

  • Annie

    Thank you dear. So glad you’re in my life. Love you.

  • Annie

    I don’t feel that way at all (that people who have a different viewpoint are the enemy). I can’t speak for everyone but I don’t. However, I think particularly in this specific debate, it sometimes feels that way because I quite literally feel that people standing in the way of common sense gun control are a real threat to the lives and safety of my children, myself, and everyone I love.

    I read widely and from many sources to find answers and do my best to try to see other viewpoints. In this particular debate, all I have seen and read leads me to believe that common sense gun control is, well, common sense. And anyway, we haven’t tried anything and clearly that isn’t working at ALL, so why not try? We only stand to win, imo.

    I have seen that video of Obama you are referring to and I think he makes wonderful points. I wish everyone could consider his words carefully because they are wise. And yes, I have seen that video of Lady Gaga and the Dalai Lama too and it is wonderful. Very wise indeed.

  • Florence Millo

    Annie for Congress! Seriously.

  • Tiara Renoll

    Amazing how food connects us all. Thank you for all that you do!

  • Shey Detterline

    Thankful that you’re speaking up! I couldn’t agree with you more – you have other sisters fighting in the wings with you. <3

  • Annie

    Thank you Shey!

  • Annie

    Oh my! Thank you :)

  • Sarah_EH

    I completely agree with you. I’ve never really contacted my state senators/representatives before, but I think now is the time to start. Thanks for your honesty and openness, keep putting it out there!

  • Annie

    Thank you for taking that step! Our voices must be heard and hopefully we can bring about positive change.

  • tara

    i love your blog. i love these posts !! When i heard people saying now is not the time to discuss i wondered how the families of the dead felt at hearing that ? I’ve never heard of resist bot i will check it out. i wish more people would read the second amendment and understand its intent. it has been misconstrued over time. i saw something online the other day that said “your uterus is more regulated than your gun”. it made me laugh at first but then a bit sad because its so true ! Thank you for your post. I have hope that NRA could lose some of its hold. Many years ago Big Tobbaco had a hold on a lot of law makers and eventually that has decreased a bit. I’m hopeful that will also happen with the gun lobby. But when sandy hook came and went with nothing….wow…did i have my doubts we would ever have any change in my lifetime. Keep up the good fight and thank you for the links to other info i like that !

  • Annie

    Thanks so much for the support. I appreciate it.

  • Mattie

    Well said, thank you.

  • Annie

    Thank you!