In the nearly ten years of this blog’s existence, two presidential elections have come and gone and I have not discussed them. That changes right now, because this was no ordinary election and this must be addressed.

Today I am truly and utterly heartbroken, in a unique way I have not previously experienced in my 33 years, and I am no stranger to sadness. Eight years ago when Obama was elected, Ben and I stood in Andrew’s nursery while he slept, holding each other and crying tears of joy with so much hope for the future. It was concrete evidence that progress was possible and was being made, albeit slowly and belatedly. This morning we held each other in shock and sorrow. I had to attempt to explain to my children how a man who has made hatred and bigotry the centerpiece of his campaign won the presidential election. A person with zero experience or qualifications, who has been openly and vocally racist, bigoted against the LGBTQ community, xenophobic, sexist, has bragged about sexual assault, mocked disabled individuals, proudly did not pay his taxes, and so much more has been elected to the highest office of our nation. A person who chose for his running mate a man who has enacted horrible bigoted legislation in my home state. Imagine for a moment if a black man or a woman had done these same things. Would they have been elected? I would have struggled to explain how such a person could receive even ONE vote. I never imagined it could go this far. Hatred and fear have proven extremely powerful and effective marketing tools, it seems. The electorate has been duped by a con man and we will all suffer the consequences. I am appalled, embarrassed, confused, and scared.

Yesterday morning I was filled with hope. I believed we were on the brink of making history by electing the first female president. While that would have been excellent in its own right and could be a whole separate topic to discuss at length, Clinton was by far the more qualified candidate for the job and one I am proud to support. I, like so many, wore a pant suit to show my solidarity with the Pantsuit Nation movement that has been such a positive, inspiring spot in this hideously dark time. Though I normally tend toward pessimism, even I was feeling optimistic because of the polls and predictions favoring Clinton so strongly that the financial markets stabilized. The fact that polls were wrong, that people were rightly ashamed to make known their true feelings when questioned but then were willing to take their awful sentiments to the ballot box and put them into tangible action…that says so much.

Pointing fingers is useless, though we could certainly point them in many directions. At the disaster of a party that didn’t have the guts to step up and take control of the crazy person running the ship, and at the many party leaders who meekly omitted their support of Trump in the face of his heinous behavior but did nothing to actively denounce or stop him. At the democratic party perhaps, for not running a stronger candidate more likely to win. Honorable mention to third party voters and the FBI. Instead of looking for how to place blame, I suggest instead we take a collective look in the mirror.

While I understand the impulse of many to attempt to comfort themselves with discussions of checks and balances, etc etc., I urge you not to go that route. Do not allow yourself to be comforted. Do not become complacent. Complacency is largely what has allowed us to reach this point. Even if that system is able to minimize the damage to come (and I doubt that it will), we should be extremely uncomfortable that we have reached this point at all. Sit with that discomfort and anger and absolute alarm, and let it be the impetus for change.

Today I feel utterly beaten down and dismayed. This country has let me down. I look around seeing for the first time a world that has turned out to be quite different than the one I believed I lived in. But I refuse to let this keep me down, keep us down, for long. I cling to the good, and there is still so much that is good. I have an incredible family and friends who are #withher and are with me, and with ALL of humankind. Our country is made up of people of all kinds – different races, ethnicities, genders, religions, sexual orientations, and more, and every single one of those people deserves love, support and acceptance. I am grateful to have an amazing network of loving and kind people in my life who are just as disgusted by this outcome as I am, who texted and called me as results rolled in, and who continue to contact me today, each of us crying while supporting each other with the resolve that we will be the change and we will be the light.

Our differences are supposed to be what makes our country great, and giving privilege and preference to a select group of white males will most certainly not “make (it) great again”. Now more than ever is the time to heed Michelle Obama’s wise words: “When they go low, we go high.” This is a very low low, but I hope it gives us the opportunity to go that much higher. What do we do now? We carry on loving those around us, ALL of them. We teach our children the same and lead by example. We raise boys and girls both as feminists. We must embody love and let this be our legacy so that our children can go forward with what will be their task of righting the wrongs of our time. We can and should become more active in our communities and in future elections to do all we can to prevent this tragedy from progressing further.

I leave you with the few words that are giving me any semblance of hope right now, both quotes from the legendary and incomparable Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. First, “The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.”  And never forget, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

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Update: Thank you all for your passionate response to this post, both positive and negative. I have done my best to reply thoughtfully and reasonably to each and every comment (save a very select few which were more hate speech than actual thought, so they were removed.) That said, my mind and body have been exhausted both by the events of this week and my nearly continuous attempt to maintain a high level of intelligent discussion with all of you who felt compelled to reply. At this point, little new is being added to the discussion and therefore I have closed the comment section. This will not be the last time I discuss such topics, however, so I hope you will engage with me again the next time that I do. I love hearing your thoughts and opinions and many have given me great food for thought. I believe communication in the midst of disagreement is essential to moving forward, and I am glad to have readers who are willing to discuss important topics beyond food with me.

  • Linda Drury Freeman

    Beautifully written.

  • Thank you SO MUCH for sharing this. I can imagine it must be hard to be political when you also want to keep your blog a neutral place for a shared interest. You’ve spoken eloquently about a topic I’m still struggling to wrap my mind around.

  • Angela

    Thank you Annie for sharing your thoughts. I still feel like I woke up to a bad dream. It was hard to tell my children who won. The whole thing scares me. I take comfort in the same as you, knowing that I am supported by good, kind, generous, loving people. My community is very diverse and everyone is willing to lend a helping hand. My kids know that is important. I will continue to show my kids that that is the way. That bigotry, racism and hatred are not.

  • Hailey

    Thank you! Although I wished wholeheartedly for a different outcome for our country, and sincerely thought we’d get that, we must have hope and root for the future of our country and our children.

  • Elise

    Annie, I have been following your blog for years and years, but I’m not usually a commenter. Today however, I feel the need to leave a note to say thank you. You have so elequently put into words many of the things I am feeling on this sad day. I too hope that we can carry on as allies in love and continue to “go high” with a renewed strength to make this country a place for everyone, no matter what. Thank you for not being afraid to share your opinions publicly, your words hold great power.

  • SM

    Thank you, Annie. I have not had the words this morning to express what you so eloquently have. In just about a month, I will hopefully bring a healthy baby girl into this world. Yesterday, I was so hopeful that it would be a world in which she would never know a time where there had not been a female president. Today, I am heartbroken with the reality we face. I sincerely appreciate your expression of your views and am inspired by your reminder to be a light in what feels like a dark time.

  • Cynthia Christner Ostapuck

    Very well written and I could not agree more. I feel like a dark cloud is hanging above my head and I struggle to find the words to describe my feelings. My overwhelming thought is fear… fear for my children and what lies before them in the very near future or what impact this will have holistically on their life. I am an American, I love this country and I will continue to search for the good in this world that we live in despite the mean, nasty, bigot, demeaning and utterly disgusting image that seems to represent our majority. I am glad to be in the minority in this aspect of life.

  • I love you, friend. Thank you for writing this.

  • Shannon T.

    As a Trump supporter, as is half the country, I could go into the reasons why I disagree with most of your post. But I will say that I have stayed away from political postings lately for a reason and am very disappointed that you chose to post about it on what I thought was a non-partisan website. I have been a long time fan of your site and you have now lost my support. I will not tolerate those who put down my choices and beliefs.

  • thatchicchick

    Wonderfully said, Annie. Thank you for not being silent and for expressing everything so many of us are thinking and feeling.

  • Thank you for having the courage to speak up. <3

  • Melissa Vasquez

    I just keep telling everyone to just love. And do. This too shall pass…check out the millennial vote- there is hope!

  • Kathleen Robinson

    Well said!

  • Kristen Bailey

    I and many others are crying with you in Canada, Annie. I thank you for speaking publicly about this and for reminding us that only love can drive out the hate.

  • Annie

    Nowhere does my site identify as bipartisan. This is a personal blog, my own lovely space where I can express my views thanks to our Constitution. If my personal denouncement of bigotry, hatred, racism, sexism and more upsets you, I am thrilled to see you go. I can only say that I hope you someday open your mind to love and acceptance of all and not love of only toward those you consider worthy in your own, very narrow view.

  • Annie

    Thank you very much, Elise.

  • Annie

    Thank you. My thoughts are with you right now as well.

  • Annie

    Thank you Hailey!

  • Annie

    Thank you Angela.

  • Annie

    Thank you Annie.

  • Annie

    Thank you Linda.

  • Annie

    Thank you Kristen.

  • Celine

    Excellent post. Today is such a sad today. As an environmental studies student who voted in my first election, I wonder what the future holds for all of us. And for those in marginalized groups, what does the immediate future hold?

    The arc of the universe does bend towards justice–but we have to help bend it!

  • tara

    i feel just like you ! angry and not ready to just say oh well…lets just join together ! i dont understand how people could have voted for this man ? what does it say about us ? i am not ashamed to be an american, but i am however ashamed of americans right now. i am surrounded by people who thought there was no way trump could win. because of this i think it has hit me very hard. i didnt think people were this bigoted, homophobed, sexist, etc. wow i cant even spell im so angry ! i needed to open my eyes and see first hand that these people still are out there i guess ? in droves larger than i imagined ?

    i actually cried this AM while getting ready. i have had a hard time lately in my corporate job and feeling no matter how hard i try to keep up, i’m in a mans world, etc and this just was the icing on the cake. many don’t know what its like to sit in a conference room with all men around you knowing you are likely making 87 cents on the dollar and have to work twice as hard to prove yourself. and now i gotta worry that they think its accpetable to grap me by the p**** ? i grew up thinking i could do whatever i wanted that my gender didnt matter but u know what…it matters to some people ! what can i do about that ? i feel like i should do more than just unify and accept this kumbaya crap ! but u know what i did ? i put my big girl pants on (pants suit !), concealed my puffy eyes (naked UD love it) and got my ass to work and am sitting in my chair right now. im angry today, hopefully less angry (and sad) tomorrow but instead filled with ideas on how to become more involved to make the change i want to see in this country ! thank you again for this awesome space to share my complete rambling.

  • Such an eloquent post, Annie. Thank you.

  • Annie

    Thank you Suwannee!

  • Sara Fries

    Thank you for speaking up. Agree 100%.

  • Annie

    Thank you Tara. I agree one million percent with all you said. It is still such a complete mind fuck that he could brag about grabbing women by the pussy and even a single human, man or woman, would vote for him. So disgusting. Did you know that 49% of educated white women voted for him? WHAAAAAT?!!?!?!?! I am in utter disbelief. But as a friend said to me today, we’ll do what women always do. Take a deep breath, regroup, and keep on pushing. I got you, girl.

  • Annie

    Thank you, and I agree. Let’s bend it!

  • mom244evermom

    Beautiful post. I am truly bereft.

  • Toya Lindsey

    I thank you for spreading love through this post! I am still struggling to find the words to say how I feel when I woke up this morning to see the results from the Presidental election and you have eloquently, hit it on the nail. Thank you for your positivity during what can only be considered as troubled times. I have been, and will continue to be a huge supporter of your blog! Again, thank you!

  • Whitney

    Thank you Annie. You’re a great writer. Wise words on a difficult day.

  • Annie

    Thank you Toya.

  • Annie

    Thank you.

  • Annie

    Thank you Sara.

  • Annie

    Thank you Whitney.

  • Shari

    This is a sad day in our country’s history. IT confirms that there are people out there who would rather conform to hatred than call it out for what it is. If Obama did 1% of what he did, it probably would have led to impeachment. I wanted to cry watching her concession speech.

  • Katie Glasgow

    This was so well written. As a mother of a 4 year old boy and 1 year old girl I really hoped to wake up this morning and be able to explain to my children a much different outcome… and for my daughter to grow up in a world where she would never remember that a woman wasn’t president. I’ve felt sad all day and this post summed up my feelings exactly. Thank you for sharing.

  • Annie

    I know. So heartbreaking. Thank you for your comment Shari.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Katie.

  • Jan Jacquart

    Thank you Annie!!!!

  • Samantha

    First time commenting, I’ve been following for awhile.
    I too am crushed by this result and frightened we will lose so much of the progress that was made. We are planning to expand our family and I am terrified at the prospect of being pregnant with potential stripping of healthcare and women’s rights under this next President.

  • Anne

    I just read a great quote, which was attributed as a Mexican proverb–“They tried to bury us. They didn’t know we were seeds.” This is a day of grieving for me, too, but tomorrow we need to get right back up and continue to fight for a better world. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Annie.

  • Sarah M

    My heart is too bruised to write what I’m feeling. Somehow you managed to do it so well. Let’s all keep fighting the good fight.

  • ellysaysopa

    Thank you for using your platform to speak out, Annie. I’m happy to raise the next generation of do-gooders, feminists, and activists alongside you.

  • “I will not tolerate those who put down my choices and beliefs.” Wow that’s pretty ironic, don’t you think? You just helped elect a man whose entire platform was putting down others’ choices and beliefs. Your bigotry is showing, bright and clear.

  • Annie

    Thank you, Elly. I’m proud to keep fighting the good fight with you and ours.

  • Annie

    Thank you Anne. That is lovely.

  • Annie

    The threat to women’s bodily and reproductive rights is intensely terrifying. Who knew “grab them by the pussy” would become a literal threat?

  • Annie

    Thank you Jan!

  • Larisa

    I don’t even live in the states, but watched in disbelief from Canada. I cannot believe that there are people, let alone so many, that would support this man. And their excuses for why they do so are baffling and weak. Your post was well written – summarizing many people’s anger at this outcome, but also ending in the hope that good will overcome. As Clinton quoted in her concession – let us not become weary of doing good!

  • Jamie Z.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts. As a mom of 2 daughters, I am completely mortified. What a sad, sad day. I still haven’t figured out exactly what to tell them and how to process this with them.

  • Tracy

    Thank you for your eloquent words, I have having difficulty expressing my thoughts and yours helped me.

  • Andrianna

    I’m heartbroken right there alongside you. I’m fortunate to live in a blue bubble here in Puget Sound, but that doesn’t ease my pain and fear for our nation as a whole. My husband moved here from Indiana 6 years ago specifically to get away from the bigotry and hatred that allowed a candidate like Mike Pence to rise to power in the state. I was thinking of you and many of his like-minded friends still in Indiana last night – you were all a tiny glimmer of hope as I watched the state turn red on the election coverage map. Thank you so much for being vocal on this issue! I don’t just see this as a food blog anymore; I see this as a lifestyle blog, and what could affect my lifestyle more than the leadership of our government?? I’m very grateful for your words, today and always.

  • Annie

    Thank you Jamie. Good luck in navigating this with your girls.

  • Annie

    Thank you Tracy.

  • Annie

    Thank you Larisa!

  • Sherri

    Thank you Annie for writing your thoughts so beautifully. I am completely heartbroken and appalled by voters in the US who could even allow that horrible person to compete with Hillary. How could people (and 53% of white women!!!) vote for this trash? The only thing I can hope for is that awful trump will fail in ways that will enable us to be able to kick him out ASAP. But in the meantime, I agree with your wonderful focus on love and people’s inspiration like Dr. Martin Luther King and Michelle Obama.

  • Alice

    Thank you for putting into words exactly how I’m feeling right now

  • I’ve never commented before but must thank you for your eloquent words. You expressed exactly how I am feeling today. The election is a sad commentary on our country- one that I did not want to believe was true. We need to be in active opposition to all the bad things that can come of this for the good of everyone on the planet.

  • Liz N.

    I cried this morning, as I woke my daughter up. She knew the election didn’t go as we had hoped when she saw my tears streaked face. My heart aches for all our daughters who have to witness this moment in history. I cried reading your post at work. My heart is heavy today. Your words expressed EXACTLY what I feel so eloquently and so poignantly. Thank you for your honest and brave post. I needed to affirmation that I was not alone in my sadness.

  • I teach at a low SEC high school in Southern California and the kids are so fearful for the statuses of their families in this country. How can I expect them to focus on reading a play and correcting essays errors today? Heartbroken, horrified, and humiliated. I’m glad you spoke up- why have a space if you don’t use it?

  • Rachel Jaggers

    I LOVED reading your post Annie, THANK YOU. Excellent response to Shannon T. She can take ignorant misguided bigoted views elsewhere. I’m horrified today, as a woman, a mother, and American. I hope for our children that this era is one term and its effects are not long lasting. We all deserve better.

  • Jen

    Annie, I’ve enjoyed your site for the delicious recipes, beautiful photographs, and as a fellow physician I have long been impressed by your ability to balance your professional duties with a clear commitment to your family and self-care. Thank you for recognizing that this election is different, and that it is incumbent on all of us to channel our despair and anger into action and activism.

  • Rachael G

    All I could write on FB last night was “I’m a woman. I’m the wife of a Mexican American. I’m the mother of a child who is half Mexican American. I’m the wife of a soldier who will be the one who is sent off to fight in wars. And I’m afraid.” Scary times all around. The only consolation I could find today was the grace Secretary Clinton showed today in her public address. She may not have been perfect (but really, who is?), but I truly felt she would lead our country with dignity and class.

  • Sarah

    Thank you so much for this. I’ve been following your blog and cooking your recipes for several years. I’ve never before commented, but as soon as I saw this post, I opened an account so that I could tell you how grateful I am to you for speaking up. Women are rarely treated well when speaking their minds in public forums (even their own blogs), and I wanted to help make sure that you get more praise than you do criticism for this post. I’m #withher, too. And I’m unspeakably sad today as well. But having a community helps. Thank you for your delicious recipes, and your thoughtful, loving comments about the nation we should be, even if right now it isn’t the nation we are.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Sarah. I have been taught time and again that the world doesn’t take kindly to an opinionated woman who speaks her mind, but it also hasn’t stopped me yet. Thank you for your support and kind words.

  • Annie

    I’m sorry for your fear Rachael. I am scared as a woman, scared as the mother of children who may turn out to be LGBT, and scared for all people who are different in any way. I don’t know what else to say but know that I’m with you, and a whole lot of us are.

  • Linda

    Love what you wrote. I am a 65 year old grandmother. I am worried about what kind of country my beautiful grandchildren will grow up in. Your words are very comforting.

  • Annie

    Thank you Jen!

  • Annie

    Thank you Rachel!

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Liz. Love to you and yours today and always.

  • Annie

    Thank you Christine. I know, doing “normal” things just doesn’t feel right today. Who knows when it will?

  • Annie

    Thank you Judy.

  • Annie

    Thank you Alice!

  • Annie

    Thank you so very much Sherri.

  • Annie

    Thank you Andrianna! And actually the blog is in transition at the moment to become exactly that. There will still be food and plenty of it but you’ll be hearing lots more from me on all kinds of things, and hopefully I’ll continue hearing from all of you. I love that we have been able to foster intelligent dialogue in this unexpected space. Peace and love to you today and always.

  • Kristin

    This is beautifully expressed, and I couldn’t agree with you more strongly. I am an optimist, and am working with my pessimist 22 year old daughter.. she was sounding despairing and didn’t want to live in this kind of a world last night, but today she is preparing to go out and work for the country and world she thought we lived in, and that she wants to help create. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings.

  • Trisha

    I haven’t been able to match words with how I’m feeling today but my thoughts echo so much of what you’ve said here. I’ve spent the day focusing on all that is good in my life, most importantly the smiles and laughter of my children. I’m grateful they are young enough that I don’t have to explain this to them and my hope is that by the time they are old enough to understand, this country can come together and elect a candidate that we can all be proud of.
    Thank you for putting words to what many of us are feeling.

  • Ellen

    So well said. Thank you. I’m shattered today but I have to believe that love will ultimately prevail. #imwithher <3

  • Christina

    Sorry you were treated like this from the hostess of the blog. I would have thought respecting your opinion was the adult thing one could do for another. I’m leaving as a result too. I wish everyone the best.

  • Kat Moore

    Everyone already said all of the thank you’s and the “you wrote what I was feeling” and the “we’ll dust ourselves off and get back to being kind” better than I could, so I’ll just add this: Annie for President 2020!

    In all seriousness, man, am I going to be paying attention early on to the folks thinking about running next. As an admittedly vaguely right leaning moderate in Texas who probably does disagree with you on some of the issues (sorry for that, but I still love you more than is possibly appropriate for a blogger / reader relationship), I am shocked at (a) how many of my loved ones and neighbors felt that their vote for a hateful sociopath was at all the right path, however legitimate they felt their rationale was regarding Supreme Court or taxes or borders or guns or economy or whatever scared them most and (b) that several were proud to admit it only after the results were in, skewing the vote itself. I really hope they don’t read this as I work internally to figure out how to move past the judgy phase of this pain toward a more constructive attitude myself. Sigh.

    I’m going to finish off the Halloween candy now. And possibly make some German chocolate cake from your site after work to make it all better.

  • Sharlene Sanidad

    Preach, Annie, preach! Thank you for saying everything I want to say and hear all at the same time. To hope and light.

  • Emilie in MN

    Annie,
    I don’t normally comment, but I wanted to just say thank you. Very well stated and I completely agree with you. We must keep our heads up. And if this election teaches us anything, silence is no longer and option.
    Thank you for the brave and bold post.
    Emilie

  • Amy C

    Thank you for sharing this. My first thought this morning, besides “fuck”, was that yet again a qualified and intelligent woman has been defeated by a man yelling louder than her. It is extremely frustrating and it hurts.

  • Annie

    Hostess? This isn’t a party. I expressed my views, she was offended by my dislike of what her candidate stands for (racism, hatred, sexism, bigotry, greed, etc.), and I’m glad to see you both go. Progress will move forward without and in spite of you because (once more, with feeling!) love trumps hate.

  • Annie

    Thank you Ellen!

  • Annie

    Thank you Linda. I will do all that I can to help improve our world for my children, your grandchildren, and for all.

  • Annie

    Thank you very much Emilie!

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Sharlene!

  • Sarah

    Nailed it.

  • Annie

    Thank you Kristin. My thoughts for your daughter are: Chin up. Sometimes all we can do is hold the line and keep fighting the good fight, and maybe fight a little harder. The path may be longer than we thought but we’ll get there, and it will feel great to have stayed on the right side of history.

  • Annie

    Thank you Trisha.

  • Sylvia Bustamante Whisenant

    Thank you for saying what I feel. I have felt like crying all day today not knowing what the future holds for our country.

  • Annie

    Thank you, Amy. Yes, it is unbelievably frustrating. But we are not a small minority and with time, dedication and continued visibility, we’ll keep making progress.

  • Annie

    Thank you Sarah.

  • Annie

    Thank you Kat. I appreciate your ability and willingness to have an open dialogue about these things. Don’t be sorry for disagreeing with me on certain issues though – that is to be expected. Of course no one can agree on everything, but the stunning blow of this moment in history is that we couldn’t all agree to reject a bigoted racist sociopath. I had more faith in us, and I admittedly don’t have much faith to begin with.

    Thank you for your super sweet and thoughtful comment. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate it.

  • Annie

    Thank you Sylvia. Sending you hugs.

  • Kat Moore

    “Of course no one can agree on everything, but the stunning blow of this moment in history is that we couldn’t all agree to reject a bigoted racist sociopath. ” FUCKING AMEN. I gotta go pick up kids and figure out what to say to them after telling them for months that there was no way this could happen.

  • Angela

    Your post touched me deeply and gave me much hope.

    I have felt like I couldn’t blink for hours. I cannot believe this happened. I am devastated, embarrassed, and horrified. I cried last night, wondering how to tell my three daughters, my son. How do I tell my beloveds, three of whom are special needs, that a person who makes fun of the impaired will be in the White House? That a man who harms women and makes sport of it is to lead? That after our first African American president, one who was endorsed by the kkk will be there instead? I don’t have words for my grief and fear.

    Today, the sun rose and, despite all my heaviness of soul, the day goes on. We will go on. We can do this. We can be the good and we can love. We must. We will. Here’s to our discomfort. Here’s to justice. Here’s to love.

  • Erika Robinson

    Thank you for speaking up and being a shining light during a dark time. It’s so important that people do shine their light so that the oppressed know that we care and love them. We are listening to their pleas. They are heard. And they do matter. It is so terrifying to think of things that can happen.
    As a woman working toward a doctorate degree, I always have that voice in the back of my head telling me that I am “just” a woman and have a lot of work left to do to prove my worth. When I finish my degree and become a job candidate, I’ll also be a woman nearing 30 years old and married to a “real” doctor (md). It’s sickening to me that I even have to think about how I will present myself without either coming off as a woman who doesn’t really need a job because her husband is a doctor, or a woman that is *obviously* going to have a baby soon and lose all ability to work. Not to mention, I have to consider the length of my hair, the color of my hair, the jewelry I wear, the make up I wear, and the clothes I wear while trying to get a job. Finding the right balance between qualified and attractive but not too attractive because then I’m obviously not intelligent. Smart women aren’t pretty women. (Yuck!!!)
    It’s super depressing to know that it’s likely only going to get worse in the next four years than better.
    Luckily, women like you and your friends and me and my friends do exist. We carry on. One of my favorite quotes from Big Magic is “onward over, backwards never.” And that’s what we have to forcefully do.

  • Hana

    Thank you Annie. I still don’t have words and it helped reading yours. I am in mourning and decided to sit shiva. A friend on FB inspired me to make some donations to organizations that are important to me like Planned Parenthood and the Human Rights Campaign. I am also hoping that in some time I can turn my sadness, anger and fear into a positive force somewhere in my community. I’m already searching for places to get involved.

  • tm171503

    I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your thoughtful words. I think so many of us feel the same and it always helps to be supportive of each other through words, hugs and written posts like this. Like so many others, I’m giving myself a day to grieve and then I’ll work on the battle to bring love and equality to all. Thank you for having the courage to express these words publicly today.

  • Kristin

    Yes. We will get there, and it will feel good!

  • Erika Robinson

    To add: Jezebel.com posted this today of organizations worth supporting: http://jezebel.com/a-list-of-pro-women-pro-immigrant-pro-earth-anti-big-1788752078

  • Chrissy Harris

    Thank you for being a light in this current state of darkness. I am completely heartbroken. Sending love and light to you, your family, and our country xoxoxo

  • Allison Cook

    yes, yes, and so much yes. eloquently and appropriately said. your words have so accurately described my thoughts and feelings today. there’s no direction to go but forward. love STILL trumps hate.

  • Erin B

    As a woman, a parent to a child on the autism spectrum, and a person who genuinely loves others regardless of their sexuality, skin color, or religion, my heart broke this morning. You couldn’t have said it better. I’ve read your blog the last 6 years and respect you even more now. Thank you for sharing your views and having the courage to speak up.

  • Danita Day

    Your words describe how I feel and like many others on this thread I have been very teary eyed today as I think about the challenges that lay ahead and what will be taken away in the near future. I’m much older than you and had so much hope in my heart to finally see a women in in the White House. Something I didn’t think I would see in my lifetime and now I’m not sure I will. I’m embarrassed for our country and very concerned for our immediate future.

  • Suzanne Davidson

    I find this statement from you very hollow, “Our country is made up of people of all kinds – different races, ethnicities, genders, religions, sexual orientations, and more, and every single one of those people deserves love, support and acceptance.” The only people you think deserve acceptance are those who agree with you. I can’t imagine not being friends with or not accepting someone because they vote and think differently than me, that’s definitely something to be ashamed of. Another appalling statement, “that people were rightly ashamed to make known their true feelings when questioned but then were willing to take their awful sentiments to the ballot box and put them into tangible action…that says so much.” Again, because someone doesn’t agree with you makes them awful? It’s so bizarre to me that people that allegedly stand for tolerance, CONSISTENTLY spew so much negativity and hatred, it really is so sad. Just as Hilary Clinton was a deeply flawed candidate with hard evidence suggesting a myriad of wrong doings, doesn’t mean the people that voted for her are terrible.

  • Melissa L

    I understand the concern so many have this morning (myself included), but I think it is more helpful to listen to what Hillary said this morning: “Donald Trump is going to be our president. We owe him an open mind and the chance to lead.” I, for one, will be praying daily for our country to heal and unite and for our new president to surprise us all with his good, sensible leadership.

  • Emily

    I believe we experienced the same emotions. Trump is a symbol of hatred to me. He has trodden on the backbone of this nation and yet we allowed him to rise. Yesterday morning, I shed tears of joy at the thought of the election night. As the night went on, it turned into tears of hopelessness and fear. Fear of what will happen to my country. I will not joke about going to Canada because I will not allow this country, my country, to suffer and fall. I will stay and fight for her. I will continue to solider on in hopes that we will overcome hatred in the coming years. This win has validated racists, misogynists, and bigots and their feelings. We cannot let this happen. We must continue to be allies to LGBTQ community, minorities, and the disenfranchised. We must be beacons of hope and light for our children and their future. Thank you, Annie. Thank you.

  • PhilosopherJules

    What a shame, although unsurprising considering the candidate you supported, that you can’t engage in a respectful debate when someone posts a different viewpoint. This is Annie’s blog. I’ve read several blogs where people supported Trump. I stopped reading but never did I think that my viewpoint was so important that I’d announce that I wasn’t reading the site ever again. Your comment is pure entitlement.

  • Shannon T.

    My comments were not malicious in the least. What I said was that I was disappointed that this website, which I enjoy reading, has become a political discussion. It is your website and definitely your right to post whatever you wish. I also respect your views and do not call others who disagree with mine names. You don’t know me or my reasons for voting the way I did and I don’t judge others for theirs. I believe Hillary Clinton said this morning that we need to try to come together, just like we have in all past elections. Name calling and judging me is not something I participate in. I respect others right to their differing opinions.

  • Annie

    I’m sorry to say but you miss the point. That statement is entirely sincere. I don’t believe any group deserves to be discriminated against, including those whose views differ from my own. However, when someone wants to impose their narrow view of a group of people on the rest of us and when that view comes from a place of prejudice and has negative implications for said group, we should all fear that and speak out against it.

    Liberals aren’t spewing hatred toward specific races, ethnicities, religion, sexual orientation, or any other group qualifier. We are hating and being negative toward hatred itself. That is something everyone should be able to get behind. People should damn well be ashamed of being bigots, and if you cannot understand that or willfully choose not to, there is no point in attempting to reason with you.

    And please don’t even get me started on “deeply flawed candidate with hard evidence suggesting a myriad of wrongdoing”. Trump repeatedly and consistently fed us example after example of his horrific character, and the vague suggestion of maybe something not so great about the other candidate does not in turn justify supporting this man and what he stands for.

  • Annie

    I do not see where you were called malicious or called a name. I’m scouring the thread and missing that entirely. Obviously you have a right to feel however you may that a website you wished to be free of political discussion and is not so, but never fear – there are countless shiny, spotless conflict free blogs out there for you to frequent and enjoy. Either way, I’ll be here speaking up for what I believe in which is love, rights and equality for all people. That’s my focus right now.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Emily.

  • Annie

    Thank you Danita.

  • Annie

    Thank you Allison.

  • Lanette

    Lump in my throat yesterday for the same reasons you put on the pantsuit. Lump in my throat today that this is what we all woke up to. I’m so shocked and grief stricken. And like you, I’ve had my fair share of loss but this feels different. It almost feels like I woke up in a foreign place. I’ll be taking a break from social media and news for a bit…but once I regroup I’ll be ready to fight the good fight. Apathy is almost as bad as hatred. I’m not okay with that.

  • Annie

    Hillary said the right thing as she was expected to. While I agree we owe him a chance to lead, we must still be wary and cautious because this is about so much more than just Trump. As one commenter just put it very well, “This win has validated racists, misogynists, and bigots and their feelings.” What he will do remains to be seen, but this fact is a fact and must now be dealt with regardless.

  • Annie

    Thank you very much Erin. I truly appreciate your kind words.

  • Annie

    Oh Chrissy, I’m so sorry. I understand. I’m here. More of us are here than we realize.

  • Annie

    Yes, thank you! I saw this just a bit ago. I hope to do a follow up post soon and will try to incorporate this info into it somehow.

  • Annie

    Yes, thank you Kristin!

  • Annie

    Thank you very much.

  • disqus_nOS1LqmMH3

    I find it distressing hat there can be so many people in this country
    who endorse or ignore bullying, misogyny, bigotry, racism,
    egocentrism, (and on and on).

  • Annie

    Thank you Hana. I am in mourning as well. I wore all black to work today and cried on and off throughout the day. I will be increasing my already regular donations to Planned Parenthood and more such organizations, and I’ll be brainstorming ways we can all work together in that way as well.

  • Annie

    Thank you Erika. And I so thoroughly understand your feelings about how you are viewed in the professional realm as a woman. As a fairly conventionally attractive woman who also loves fashion, I know very well I am judged on my looks first at work. I have often seen the looks of surprise in my profession when the recognition dawns that there is a very intelligent, outspoken and independent person within my exterior. It is unfortunate that this is the climate we live in but we must continue working to change it. I hope that in my small way, by going on with my bad self, I’ll be able to help shift perspective and change how some people view and judge women.

  • Annie

    Lots of love to you, Angela. And thank you. We’ll get through this somehow. Even when we aren’t quite sure how.

  • Annie

    Thank you Lanette. Take the time you need to take care of yourself. When you’re back, we’ll be here ready to hold the line, fight the good fight, and keep progress moving forward.

  • Annie

    It is entirely distressing.

  • Kinsey Drake

    Thank you, Annie for this thoughtful and poignant post! I woke up this morning in Italy to a literal nightmare after casting my vote (in my first presidential election) for whom I truly believed would be the first female president. I fear for all of my friends who are not white, straight men and I am ashamed to be seen as an American.

    I resolve, however to go higher than I have ever gone before for the next 4 years and work to protect the rights of everyone who Trump sees as a “threat.” I believe in my generation, and I believe that love will (and should) always trump hate.

  • Annie

    Thank you Sarah.

  • Annie

    Thank you Kinsey, so very much.

  • Annie Danko Amos

    I’m mostly numb today and cannot process many thoughts, so I am impressed at how well you were able to articulate this. The fight for love and kindness continues. <3

  • Thank you, Annie. Today was a sad day…and we must stick together to continue the fight.

  • Mary Redmond

    I’m so upset & disgusted I’m at a loss for words. Thank you Annie for your beautiful message.

  • tara

    Thank u. Today i needed to b “got”

  • Annie

    Thank you Emily!

  • Annie

    Thank you Melissa! And yes, that graphic is very heartening.

  • Annie

    Thank you very much.

  • Angela

    “going on with my bad self.” This made me all kinds of happy. You are rad.

  • Louann Zundel

    I am a mother of 2 grown sons. We raised our boys to treat all human beings with respect and dignity and led by example. My younger son, who is gay and working on his Phd at NYU, called me near tears in fear of what this election means to his dignity and his future. He said that the somber tone in the city of New York today is akin to the feeling after 9/11. My older son, who is an educator in Chicago’s inner city, called saying that he was truly grieving today and had to deal with that while explaining this outcome to his students. It is incomprehensible to our family that there is such an undercurrent of hate in this country to allow this man to be elected president.

    However, we have always lived our lives by faith and hope and will keep our minds open to the possibility that, somehow, good will prevail. Thank you, Annie, for your heartfelt words and for allowing a place to express our feelings.

  • JE

    Hi Annie,

    I’ve been reading your blog since around 2009 and love that you include personal commentary–of course, I’m probably biased because your views align quite well with my own.

    (Apologies in advance–I’m a chemist, not a political journalist!)

    In 2011, Canada held a federal election. At the time, we had a minority Conservative government (essentially the Canadian version of Republicans) and Stephen Harper was our Prime Minister. While nowhere comparable to Trump, he was…well, special. He slashed science funding (we’re still recovering), muzzled federal scientists, appointed a creationist as his science minister (!!!), famously prorogued Parliament for months, and was defeated in a no-confidence vote, which led to the 2011 election.

    I was excited for the election. We were finally getting rid of Harper. Except…well, nope. He somehow won a majority. He stayed in power until the 2015 election when non-Liberals voted Liberal just to get Harper out of office. The surprise of the election, however, was that Jack Layton and the New Democratic Party became the official opposition (imagine, for comparison, a third party suddenly winning more seats than either the Democrats or Republicans). Layton passed away from cancer a few months later. He wrote an open letter to Canadians two days before his death that included the now-famous line:

    “My friends, love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world.”

    He was right. In the next election, Harper was defeated. While our current Prime Minister isn’t perfect (duh), he’s miles ahead of his predecessor. He’s a feminist. Half of his appointed cabinet are women. Federal scientists can again attend conferences and freely share research with others in their field.

    I hope you have a similar fate in the US. I hope the term doesn’t end up being as horrific as expected. I hope people like you keep being vocal about how normalizing Trump’s behaviour IS NOT OKAY. I hope Pence perpetually feels like there’s a sharp rock stuck in his sock that he can never get rid of (OK, I’m a little petty).

  • tara

    Erika you hit it on the head!

  • Suzanne Davidson

    I fully support the right of every individual to believe and act upon whatever they truly think and feel. However, what I can not understand, is how you seem to espouse the same and just ooze so much hatred cloaked as “standing for something”. Further, I recognize I’m making an assumption that you believe in a democracy (assuming this assumption is valid) you then go on to say “someone wants to impose their narrow view of a group of people on the rest of us”? I never knew that the end result of an election could now be considered “someone imposing their narrow view”, seems like the statement coming forth from those under a dictatorship. I can completely understand the end result of an election being one of sadness that events did not go in ones direction, but your statement seem misplaced.

    I’m happy to site and reference all the “hard evidence” but I have no desire to engaged in a pointless battle. There is no doubt Trump has horrific character and I don’t recall every purporting that he did not, or ever saying that I support him. My issues with your post are on a much deeper level which you failed to see. Too many American’s are moving in a direction of truly despising other people that don’t agree with their views, in which their views are identified as the “bigger and better views”. Seem to me as if that’s imposing your will on others.

    My last thought is that the assertion that liberals aren’t spewing hatred toward any specific group simply is not true, the least important example is what you are doing right now. In your comment thread, you said you were happy to see a reader go. It seems that delight was merely based on her political views given that you know nothing else of the person. The larger and more important examples would be the many hate based comments of religious groups by liberals. I bring this up to point out that having extremely one sided views is very dividing and generally accomplishes nothing for the greater good. Lastly, to ensure you don’t mark my most previous comments as “vague”, I will leave you with a direct quote from a document. “The phrases ‘religious liberty’ and ‘religious freedom’ will stand for nothing except hypocrisy so long as they remain code words for discrimination, intolerance, racism, sexism, homophobia, Islamophobia, Christian supremacy or any form of intolerance,” wrote commission Chairman Martin R. Castro in a statement attached to the report, ‘Peaceful Coexistence: Reconciling Non-Discrimination Principles with Civil Liberties,’. No American citizen or institution should be labeled by their government as bigoted because of their religious views, but that’s exactly what happened.

  • Annie

    Thank you Meghan.

  • consectetur

    Thank you so much for this post. I’ve been reading your blog for years, I’m so glad to see you voicing your thoughts like this. I’ve been shaking since yesterday and it’s hard to see any hope. While none of my friends voted for Trump, nearly all of my family did and it’s a hard pill to swallow. I’m dreading the holidays and having to see everyone, thankful for once that I live four hours away. It’s hard to reconcile someone you love so much with a decision that’s so vile. I hope I can stay on the high road and keep working towards the future.

  • Annie

    As I said in the post, I believe Trump was elected on the basis of fear and now that he has achieved that, he can impose his narrow and scary view on the country. He marketed well and played to the fears of the white majority. But to suggest that this be the same sort of sadness that one might feel after my chosen candidate lost any other election is far off base. This was like no other election, as he is like no prior candidate. I would truly love a McCain, a Romney, or even GW right now and I didn’t like any of them.

    I do not hate those whose views differ from my own. You can claim it all you like, it simply isn’t true and only I can know that since I am me. Disagreement is not even remotely the same as hatred, and being vocal about an opinion also does not qualify it as hatred. If I hated the commenters that disagreed or their views, I would just delete those comments and not bother responding at all.

    In reference to your quote, you are right, no one should be labeled as bigoted simply because of their religious views. However, bigotry in many forms is greatly enmeshed in conservative religion. It doesn’t necessarily follow that simply because one is religious and may hold a prejudice under the guise of religion that it isn’t also bigotry. Trump panders to religious groups and that has served him very well, but he is not expressing his own religious views. He expresses bigotry, pure and simple. That is something to fear.

  • Annie

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. I need any hope I can cling to right now.

  • Annie

    Thank you Louann. My heart is with both of your sons and you as you help them navigate this sorrowful time. We can remain hopeful together.

  • Annie

    Haha! I just seemed right :)

  • Annie

    Thank you Mary.

  • Annie

    Thank you Annie.

  • Annie

    Thank you Annie. It took me several hours to articulate it, but I felt compelled to get it out. We’ll fight onward together.

  • Suzanne Davidson

    You default seems to be to pivot to discussion of Trump, which is odd considering the majority of my comments had nothing to do with Trump. My religion quote was sited to provide a concrete example of where liberals have been guilty of hatred towards a specific group, but you chose to turn it into a commentary on Trump. I find that when individuals pivot off a point to another one it’s generally because they have no valid argument.

    Lastly, your logic that you clearly don’t hate those who disagree with you because you post their comments seems flawed, the more likely reason is you enjoy the banter. However, to your point, only you can speak to what you truly feel and think, the rest of us can only speak to what your words portray–an excellent point indeed.

  • Suzanne Davidson

    Also, for the sake of clarity, I agree 100% with your statement that only you can speak to how you truly feel. I wanted to make that abundantly clear in case my response in any way may have suggested otherwise.

  • Michelle Nguyen

    Annie,
    I have been a long time reader and admirer of yours. I, too, cried as the results came in overnight and again this afternoon because it wasn’t a horrible dream. I cried today and now I’m done crying. Going forward I continue to advocate for my rights as a woman, a person of color, a child of immigrants, and for the rights of my loved ones. Because you’re right, complacency is the enemy. I want to say THANK YOU for using your platform to remind me to be the light and the love this country needs right now. You’ve managed to make me love you more.

  • Bianca

    I’m with her. Thank you for posting.

  • Annie

    I didn’t mean to pivot at all, and I wasn’t trying to dodge your point or your discussion. I guess my confusion was that I didn’t see quite where religion had come into the discussion in the first place. I agree that many liberals show their own kinds of prejudice against religion, and I do my best to be constantly mindful and not to take that stance. My comments and my vitriol are reserved for Trump, and I do disapprove of those who voted for him on the basis of various prejudices and/or bigotry untied to religious beliefs. Again, I think this is a muddy gray area that is often difficult to disentangle. If some did so based on religious conviction (which baffles me for other reasons, not even going to get into that part) that is different but I didn’t see the above commenters make any mention of religion.

    I actually truly dislike conflict and I do not enjoy this banter at all. It makes me exceedingly uncomfortable. I was nervous to post anything about this at all, and then to be so candid when I did. But I felt very compelled to speak my views today, just as I felt it necessary to respond to comments in a way I consider appropriate disagreement. I appreciate your discussion.

  • Annie

    Thank you Bianca.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much, Michelle.

  • Kayle (The Cooking Actress)

    This is so incredibly well written and encompasses how I know I, and many others, feel. Thank you for sharing Annie.

  • AY

    I have been following you for years, and look forward to continuing to follow you for your amazing recipes. I do feel compelled to respond here, my first comment. As a conservative, I voted for a candidate who most closely aligns with the issues I feel are important. I didn’t vote for Trump because I endorse every statement he has ever made, or every aspect of his character, just as I would assume you didn’t vote for Clinton simply because she is a woman, or because you support corruption. My support of Trump does not indicate support of hatred or bigotry or any of the other words you used, just as your support of Clinton does not indicate you support criminals and traitors. I hope we can all be a light in the dark and draw closer together instead of clinging to the divisiveness of this election. Peace, love and justice are things that those of us on both sides of this election are striving for.

  • Lori

    Thank you so much Annie, for sharing your heart with us. You have put into words what I cannot. Your words are truly a comfort. We will heal and make our country and the world better.

  • Cathleen

    Thank you so much for posting this. I kept refreshing the page of results last night, each time with an increasing sense of dread. I barely slept last night and I went through today in a haze. Thank you, thank you, thank you for using your platform to spread an incredibly important message. Thank you for showing your support for women, immigrants, people of color, members of the LGBTQ+ community. People like you are a beacon of hope for people like me- I’m not old enough to vote yet and I’ve seen so many adults spew out hateful rhetoric and pledge their allegiance to Trump at the polls. Thank you for raising your kids to be open-minded, kind individuals. Thank you.

  • Lyndsey Bennett

    Annie,
    I’ve been a long time reader of your blog and now I know why. My heart is broken for our country and the outcome of our future. But together, we can be the light. Thank you for this post. It’s exactly what I needed on this sad, sad day. Love will always trump hate.

  • Corinne

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I was also uncharacteristically hopeful yesterday morning. Now it’s sadness mixed with shock. My eyes are now so open to how much hate we really are up against, but maybe a silver lining is the fire it has lit under my ass to do anything I can to combat that hate. I will educate myself and vote for everything I can in 2 years, I will donate to planned parenthood, I will make sure every person I know who is part of a marginalized group will know they have an ally in me. I have very little doubt that we will lose ground over the next 4 years, but I also have hope that we can make it up. We are raising our children to be better and do better, and there’s only 3 more presidential elections until Andrew and my son who is the same age can vote.
    #pantsuitnation

  • Michele M.

    To @disqus_mBTK7HV3Rd:disqus: Fellow Canadian over here thanking you for sending hope to our neighbours, and bringing up what is possibly my all-time favourite quote. To @annieseats:disqus: Thank you for using your voice to speak out about the issues that face your country and our world in such an elegant manner. Thank you.

  • Sara

    Thank you so much for your thoughtful and very eloquent post. I’ve always enjoyed your blog for not only your wonderful recipes, but also your refreshing perspective and philosophy on life in general. I have two young children (2.5 years old and 4.5 months old) and went to bed last night at 9:30pm because, frankly, I was so tired, and despite wanting to stay up to see Hillary win the election, I figured I would sleep while I could because it was likely the baby would wake up in the middle of the night. Well, my baby woke up at 3:15, which coincided with the announcement that Trump had won the presidency. I checked my phone to see what time it was, but also to confirm (happily!) that Hillary won the presidency. Instead, I was scrolling through push notifications from the NY Times detailing the progression of events in utter horror while feeding my baby. When he was done and back asleep, I went into the kitchen to get a glass of water and cried for about 15 minutes. I cried for so many reasons, but mostly because (dammit!) another unqualified, privileged white man triumphed over a very qualified woman who would have continued to push for changes in this country to benefit all Americans. I also cried because I felt like I was completely out of touch with many people in the United States and that made me very sad. I hope that we continue to make progress despite electing Trump, but I am really worried about the state of our country.

  • Jade McGill

    Thank you for posting. I know many who feel it is not their place, on a food blog, to voice a strong opinion- whether for fear of alienating readers, or other reasons. But I appreciate your courage in doing so

  • Harriet B

    Amen.

  • Kim

    Annie, I can’t thank you enough for using the platform you have to share this message. As a woman, feminist, ally, friend, daughter (on and on), I am still struggling to understand what happened last night and to put words to the deep sorrow I feel. As a white, straight woman, I am well aware that the sadness I feel is nothing compared to the valid fear that many of my friends feel today. As a child psychologist, I struggled all day to be professional as my patients asked questions and expressed fears. A part of me feels stupid and completely blindsided because I, like you (and so many in my world), felt pretty sure that today would be cause for celebration instead of disbelief and grief. There are no good words, no way to make this okay. Still, I’m comforted by the words of solidarity shared by friends and people like you, who also kind of feel like friends in this weird age of the internet. We cannot be quiet, and I’m ready to speak up and raise hell.

  • Erinn

    Thank you for your words, Annie. It is a dark day indeed — a difficult one to explain to our children — and I am grateful for your sane voice pushing back against this bleak moment.

  • you’re awesome, Annie. Thanks for writing this. We need all the encouragement we can get.

  • Chelsea

    I am struggling, as I’m sure many of us are, with what to think, what to say, and what to do now. Your words have been comforting and empowering. Thank you so much for this, Annie.

  • Natalie Stachon

    This seems like a good time for me to express my heartfelt gratitude for you, Annie. You have been a part of my life since September 2007 when I began reading your blog. So much of my daily/weekly routine is inspired by the tips and tricks you have shared over the years, and you are certainly present at the table for all of my holiday meals.

    For the past 2-3 years, your impact on my life has extended far beyond the kitchen. I have absolutely loved being introduced to new books, podcasts, music, NPR, fashion, makeup, jewelry, hobbies…the list goes on and on.

    Due to your example and your willingness to share about important topics, I have embraced little changes that can, over time, make a big impact. Sam and I enjoy supporting local restaurants and farmers; we love to purchase local and/or handmade gifts for friends and family; we have expanded our charitable giving to include worthy organizations such as NPR; we aim to live an eco/green lifestyle…etc etc etc.

    Sam and I don’t have kids, but if we did, I would want to be a combo of my wonderful mom and you. I really admire the way you are raising such strong, kind, smart, fun kids. If children should ever become a part of my life, I have a great list of children’s books and activities all ready to go, thanks to you.

    I would especially like to thank you for posting about more serious topics lately. Since I have “known” you for 9 years, I definitely consider you a trusted source on…everything. You represent viewpoints and opinions that are a little different from what I’ve been surrounded by most of my life at school, church, and in my community. My parents did a wonderful job raising my brother and me to think for ourselves and to express our faith through love, kindness, open-mindedness, and acceptance. I am so appreciative of the information and opinions you have been sharing. It’s so helpful to get a jump start on a topic from a trusted source — it seems more manageable and less intimidating to go do your own research, once you’ve been given a good place to start.

    It’s time to wrap this up – just wanted to say thank you, I love you, stay hopeful, and keep shining your light.

  • Solea84

    Hear, hear. Beautifully said. <3

  • Ruthie

    Annie, thank you for giving words to all the emotion and anxieties so many feel today. Your candor and honesty make this blog a special place every day, but especially today.

    I was reminded in reading the Dr. King quotes you shared of the time Robert Kennedy gave a healing speech to Indianapolis the night of Dr. King’s assassination. Nearly 50 years later, his words could not be more relevant:

    http://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2016/04/rfk-speech-mlk-riot-kick-kennedy-213790

    “Standing on a podium mounted on a flatbed truck, RFK began by announcing the bad news that Martin Luther King had been shot and killed. The crowd gasped audibly, but he quickly silenced them by posing a kind of moral challenge. He acknowledged that they might “be filled with bitterness, and with hatred, and a desire for revenge,” but he invoked the example of Dr. King, and he turned the crowd’s choice whether to erupt or not into a choice for the nation as well. “We can move in that direction as a country, in greater polarization—black people amongst blacks, and white amongst whites, filled with hatred toward one another,” he said. “Or we can make an effort, as Martin Luther King did, to understand, and to comprehend, and replace that violence, that stain of bloodshed that has spread across our land, with an effort to understand, compassion, and love.” ”

  • Bonnie

    As a first generation American ( born and raised in New Jersey) of Indian nationality all I have to say is thank you for this. Thank you for being an ally in a terrifying time in our country. I am so scared what my brown skin and faith means today. That the only place I have ever considered as home feels so strongly. Thank you.

  • Beth

    BRAVO! Let’s spread some love!

  • Leah Sadegian

    Annie,
    I’ve been a long time follow and admirer of your intelligent and thoughtful posts. I’m a twenty-one year old student from Alberta, Canada who has grown up in a mostly red-neck small town. Last night, I went to sleep with the hope that the American people would vote in the educated, and experienced woman. However, when I woke up this morning and checked, I was in utter disbelief. Although this does not directly affect me, I feel scared, worried, and anxious for what this win means for not only the American people, but the world as well. We often joke that our family is the “united nations”- we have a family of mixed races and sexual orientations. My father is an immigrant from Iran who illegally escaped when he was young and was persecuted for belonging to a minority religion, my mother is Canadian, my brother-in-law is Chinese, my great Uncle is gay, and our family friend is a lesbian. I fear for what this presidential win means for my family and the rest of the world. However, I certainly do not plan to stand by and watch as hatred, sexism, bigotry, and misogyny take over. #imwithher

  • Bonnie

    Thank you Annie. This brown skin girl thanks you for your beautiful post.

  • Maddie

    Thank you for sharing, Annie! I have been trying to process the disbelief and sadness that has struck me all day and your words ignite a renewed hope. Indeed, “When they go low, we go high.” Love STILL trumps hate.

  • Brianne

    Beautifully said. Thank you for this.

  • Leah

    Thank you so much for articulating your opinion. Both my husband and I sat and watched the returns with shock and dismay. I’ve always been a supporter of the Democratic Party because in my lifetime it has been the party of inclusiveness. Everyone brings something to the table and I have never cared what that person’s race, gender, religion, sexuality or creed might be. I’ve never considered myself to be a Christian, but I do believe in following the golden rule. I still do not understand how someone could vote for this man. I feel like I do not understand a good portion of Americans anymore.

    What I do know is that I want my vote to count as much as someone in Pennsylvania or Florida or any of the other battleground states. The founders had good reasons for setting our nation up as they did, but time has passed and changes have been made. African Americans are no longer 3/5 of a person. Women can vote. And the time for the Electoral College has passed. I am tired of candidates winning the popular vote only to lose the Electoral College. My vote matters. Every vote matters.

  • Rachel

    Thank you so much for these words. On top of everything else we’re now facing, I can’t believe the amount of hatred women and minorities have experienced in the one day since people were essentially given permission to be publicly hateful. I work in a small office with mostly women and we all spent most of the day crying. Thank you for using your platform to promote love.

  • Yolanda

    Annie, thank you for your post. It definitely echoes everything that I feel. Last night my nine-year-old daughter cried herself to sleep because she is terrified of Donald Trump. My six-year-old didn’t want to get out of the car to go to Kindergarten because she is afraid that because she has brown skin, she won’t be able to come home. I don’t know how to explain any of this to them. I have always been proud to be an American. I have always told my children that they are lucky to be American, and to live in this great country of ours. Today, however, I am ashamed of what has become of our country. The election of Donald Trump has gone against everything that it means to be an American and everything that we should value. It has gone against human decency. We would be wise as a country to remember which party stood by and allowed it to happen. Thank you for having the courage to take a stand.

  • Sasha

    Bravo from a fellow Hoosier.

  • Rhonda

    I can’t agree with you more but we have to go with the flow and this is the flow we have been given let’s make the best of it!

  • Mona

    I, like you, am numb with pain and fear. I have no words at this point other than, “Thank you.”

  • Anne

    “The fact that polls were wrong, that people were rightly ashamed to make known their true feelings when questioned but then were willing to take their awful sentiments to the ballot box and put them into tangible action…that says so much.”

    You misunderstand those who voted for Trump. It is not that they were ashamed and therefore silent during the campaigning. It’s that they endured more vocal, belligerent, and opinionated people like yourself for over a year, and didn’t care to enter the discussion knowing it would instigate yet more belligerence without substantive dialogue on how to improve the nation.

    I attended a top law school in the nation (where Obama taught, in fact) and only make this point to demonstrate that I am educated. I am confident, intelligent, logical, and measured, and have the ability to treat everyone respectfully even when I vehemently disagree with their opinions; however, I choose not to have dialogue with people like you who jump to conclusions about why I voted for Trump. Shame on YOU for thinking that I’m ashamed of how my vote was cast.

    Surely you understand that for every supportive comment posted to your discussion, there is at least one person if not more who reads your thoughts and feels misunderstood and disrespected….and posts nothing. I am not so afraid of the belligerence and backlash.

    I value everyone’s opinion in the right setting but frankly don’t care to subscribe to your posts anymore due to your judgmental comment above.

    I wish you much success with your blog and hope you find the comfort and solace you’re seeking via this discussion. However, I can’t help but feel disappointment that you needed to use your blog to vent in order to feel comforted. In the meantime, I’ll continue subscribing to the other bloggers who treat their blogs as a business (I.e. receiving revenue and tax breaks from their posts) like I do my own law practice, rather than a convenient forum to vent frustrations when we’re feeling emo and need a hug.

    I expect more from the losers in this election, especially after you enjoyed 8 years with Obama. As they say – cry me a river, build a bridge, and then get over it. For more guidance on how to conduct yourself with grace, respect, and humility, see Clinton’s concession speech.

  • Whitney King

    This seems as good a time as any to thank you for the delicious recipes our family has been enjoying for years. We love so many and recommend your site to everyone!
    I’ll gladly admit to being a Trump supporter-though I can see why many others do not when claiming it leads to such hatred and personal attacks. I don’t like Donald Trump, and I don’t want to be his friend or present him to my children as a role model. I don’t think role models were anywhere to be found during this election (to be fair though, many of our presidents have been sorely lacking when it comes to role model standards. I’m looking at you JFK)
    One reason I voted for Trump is that I think a conservative Supreme Court justice will give all Americans the protection of religious freedom and he’s more likely to appoint someone whose values align with mine.
    I am hopeful that President Trump will be a good president-though only time will tell. I am confident that we as citizens can have a real impact for good by expressing our hopes and goals in productive ways. We won’t agree on most things, but name calling and holier-than-thou attitudes don’t create solutions. Let’s try courteous discusssion and helpful suggestions. Despite his many failings, I think we can look back over the last year and see many instances where Donald Trump adjusted his stance or policies according to public feedback (often outrage). This gives me hope that he’ll continue to do that and that we can end up with satisfactory compromises. He could also end up being Hitler, though I highly doubt that.
    In the end I guess my point is that this election isn’t a death sentence. The peaceful transfer of power is a beautiful thing and there’s no need to wait 4 years to get involved and try to make the world a better place.

  • Aimee

    Everything you said! I’ve fought Pence for years as an Indiana liberal. I thought the dangerous and disgusting rhetoric and policies of a Trump/Pence ticket wouldn’t gain traction with so many of my fellow countrymen. I never entertained the thought of them losing and when voting, had the heady rush of 2008 when I felt on the precipice of making history in this nation. Today, I feel gutted, disgusted and sad for my country and I am going to make sure that I always remember that feeling. I’ll use it to fuel doing more work in local, state, and national elections. An article on Huff Post titled Mourn, then Organize by Peter Dreier made so much sense to me when he spoke to being young when Bobby Kennedy was assassinated, Nixon was re-elected and the country collectively had to get over a very dark time but persevered. All we can do now is pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and fight to make this country the one we want to live in.

  • marieke

    It saddens me to see how much hate and fear have grown over the last years. After watching Great Britain vote for Brexit and now America vote for Trump, it makes me very afraid for the elections in my country next year. Unfortunately I see the same current throughout Europe. I have always been proud to live in a country that was known for it’s tollerance and acceptance of other religions, races, etc. but with the uprising of fear and hate towards others I am starting to feel more and more uncomfortable in my own country.

    Your words apply not only in America but everywhere. Love trumps hate and that is definitely something worth fighting for!

  • Annie

    Thank you Marieke.

  • Annie

    Thank you Aimee.

  • Annie

    Thank you Mona.

  • Annie

    I would love to fully understand how any person, educated or not, could in good conscience vote for a man who has behaved as Trump has. That is my point. While I realize he may represent some things that some people prioritize, election strategy or not, the ability to let those issues overpower common decency simply does not compute in my mind. I cannot think of any issue more important than that, for me. But it is clear that is where many differ. Some can excuse his behavior and vote based on a handful of issues important to them. The breeding ground of hatred that has fostered as a results of his rhetoric should scare people and if it does not, that is surely where should start all of the work we now have to do.

    And please, don’t be so condescending as to imply that your dissenting opinion is somehow more valid than my shock, sadness and anger over the result. Similarly, a blog is a BLOG! A place to discuss whatever the author sees fit. Clearly you are offended when I use it as a “convenient forum” to express my feelings. Of course I use this platform! It is mine to make my voice heard and I will do so as I choose. There are loads of blogs that cover only such topics, entirely made up of thoughts and opinions on social and political issues, so framing my choice to discuss issues deeply important to me as somehow immature smacks more than anything of your discomfort with the content of those opinions themselves. The wonderful thing is that I can decide what topics my blog will cover and, as you said, if you are unhappy with the content you are free not to read it.

  • Annie

    Thank you Sasha.

  • Annie

    Thank you Lisa.

  • Annie

    Thank you Bonnie.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Leah.

  • Annie

    Thank you Beth.

  • Annie

    Thank you Bonnie.

  • Annie

    Thank you. Good luck.

  • Annie

    Thank you Kayle.

  • Annie

    I understand that many had their reasons for voting for Trump that were not related to any of the distressing things about his character. I respect your right to that view. My point and my opinion which I try to convey and am entitled to was simply that in my mind, no issue is higher than common decency, love and respect for all people. I respect your right to feel otherwise, but understand that my post simply expresses my alarm because that simply does not compute in my mind.

  • Annie

    Thank you Lori.

  • Annie

    Thank you Cathleen.

  • Annie

    Thank you Lyndsey.

  • Stacey Hesson Gillespie

    Beautifully and bravely written.

  • Annie

    Thank you Corinne. We can do this!

  • Annie

    Thank you Sara.

  • Annie

    Thank you Michele.

  • Annie

    Thank you very much Jade.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Kim.

  • Annie

    Thank you Erinn.

  • Annie

    Thank you Anna Maria!

  • Annie

    Thank you Chelsea.

  • Annie

    Thank you Stacey.

  • Annie

    Thank you Rachel.

  • Annie

    Thank you Leah. I couldn’t agree more.

  • Annie

    Thank you Brianne.

  • Annie

    Thank you Maddie.

  • Annie

    Thank you Ruthie.

  • Annie

    Thank you.

  • Annie

    Thank you Jessica.

  • Annie

    Thank you Yolanda. I am so sorry for your daughter’s fear and can only hope that enough of us are loving, kind and encouraging that we can undo the damage unleashed by his rhetoric.

  • Rachel Brookshire McKinley

    Thanks Annie for sharing the light!!! I share your grief and find solace in our greater numbers. The silver lining, as you suggest, will be to inspire those of us who believe in equality and love for all to take back our country and fight even harder for our beliefs.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Natalie. I appreciate your loyal readership, your kind words, and your love.

  • Annie

    Thank you Rachel.

  • Annie

    Thank you Whitney for your respectful comment. I have no intention of waiting four years to make the world a better place and hope to start now by speaking out against the parts of Trump that have deeply terrified many marginalized groups. While I understand that many had reasons for supporting him beyond the surface rhetoric, I am simply expressing my personal confusion, disbelief and terror that anyone can excuse his lack of basic decency in favor of other issues. I do know that is your right and I appreciate that you have well thought out reasons for supporting him beyond surface propaganda. I agree that only time will tell what sort of president he turns out to be, and I fervently hope it is not as bad as what many of us foresee based on his campaign.

  • AY

    I get that. And I applaud the way you’re engaging in a calm dialogue with your readers on both sides of this debate. It’s good and productive for all of us to really listen to the “other side”.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Cynthia.

  • Annie

    Thank you! I don’t want to delete the comments but try to have productive discussion. I only deleted one because it was just surface “If you don’t like it, move. Obama is horrible…” etc etc. Not worth engaging.

  • mary beth

    You really should study more in depth the facts and history of Hillary Clinton. I guarantee it will make you feel a lot better about Hillary’s loss.

  • Annie

    I have done quite a lot of research about her actually, but thank you for the suggestion.

  • Annie

    I totally get that and I appreciate the civil discussion. What I was mainly trying to express was more my dislike and fear of Trump himself and of those who voted for him based not on well balanced and thought out reasons such as yourself, but more based on the alarming campaign rhetoric. The bullying, misogyny, bigotry, racism that has sprung from and been emboldened by his campaign is, I think, what scares us the most and that is what I am speaking out against. Thank you for your replies!

  • CynicInTheD

    Like you, I was saddened, hurt and bewildered by the election results yesterday. Not so much by the idea of Trump as President, because I choose to hope that despite his flaws he will institute the many changes that he promised in terms of repairing the economy, reducing the national debt, etc. However, I am beyond horrified by this county’s mob mentality and that a majority of the people elected a man who ran on a platform of racism, disrespect towards woman, and especially hatred toward Muslims. The idea that people heard these appalling words and decided to support this man is profoundly upsetting, and I can only hope and pray that they realize the errors in their thinking.

  • pamela

    THIS. Times a million. Sad and confusing times, for sure. I will miss the Obamas fiercely – my heart hurts at the thought of losing them and my head spins at the thought that the Trump family is going to take their place in the White House. It’s literally still unbelievable to me. How is this reality?? All I can say is that hopefully this is our rock bottom and we can only go up from here …

  • CynicInTheD

    “I value everyone’s opinion in the right setting but frankly don’t care
    to subscribe to your posts anymore due to your judgmental comment above.”

    Smacks of hypocrisy, don’t you think?

  • Allison T

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. This was so well said and I loved every bit of it. I share your thoughts and am happy that you were brave enough to share them with us!

  • Sylvia Anderson

    Excellent post! THANK YOU.

  • Annie

    Thank you Sylvia!

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Allison!

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Pamela.

  • Annie

    Thank you very much.

  • I’d like to think that had the shoes been on the other foot I would not have put a t-shirt on my children denigrating the President-elect. To the woman who said that her nine-year-old cried herself to sleep because she feared Trump – shame on her!! This is the time to bring our country together to foster a healthy environment whereby are children can grow in peace. I wan never an Obama fan and needless to say I wasn’t a fan of a woman who cannot remember, cannot make important decisions, and cannot walk without assistance. Please everyone, we gave Obama a chance, now pray that Trump does all the good that he says he will.

  • Tarah

    Hi Annie,
    I have been reading your blog for a long time and don’t typically comment but this morning I had to write to let you know that I am standing up right along side you. I had the same conversation with my husband last night as we were trying to make sense of what was happening to our country. While I truly do believe that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, bigotry and intolerance are never acceptable and it is imperative that we speak out against them. The level of hatred and fear in our country (and the fact that many people feel that they are okay) is truly terrifying. Ignorance is never acceptable and shame on us if we do not speak out. If we remain silent we only have ourselves to blame. Kudos to you for writing this post and using your voice. Know that I will do my best to do the same. Thanks for being a nasty woman!!

  • Annie

    Expressing support of our favored candidate with a message of love is in no way denigrating to Trump. These shirts were worn on Election Day, so he was not yet president elect. That doesn’t matter to me either way though – the message they bear, one of love, is eternally true and relevant.

    Many of us do fear greatly that Trump will do what he has promised because many do not feel that what he has promised is good. THAT is why we are scared. Those who are part of any marginalized group and those who care for them have good reason to be fearful when he talks of deporting people, calls an entire ethnicity rapists, brags about sexual assault, and so so much more. People have every right to feel scared and that child has a right to feel their feelings and cry, and you have no right to shame them for that.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Tarah. Very well said!

  • Bri K

    THANK YOU! You perfectly stated all of the same thoughts I had yesterday. I’m a professor and I’ve been an educator for 13 years. During that time, I’ve experienced some sad and shocking events with my students, but yesterday was the most difficult day. To face a group of young voters who (mostly) voted for Clinton on a day of such disappointment, horror, and grief was gut wrenching. I will not sit by silently as hate is allowed to permeate the greatest office of the land, and I am inspired as many share the same beliefs. We need to continue putting pressure on all of our elected officials and refuse to be silent.

  • Amy

    Thank you for this!! I was cheering throughout and needed the lift. After spending all day yesterday reassuring my kids that their Mexican heritage wasn’t going to get them sent to Mexico, I have a better perspective with this new morning. Yes, love will ultimately win over hate and yes, we need to turn our anger and disgust into inspiration and action!!

  • Lauren Ochoa

    I so love that you have never made your blog political because cooking, baking, and food are non-partisan issues that everyone can get behind! However, I love that you are passionate enough about this national travesty to finally break your silence on your political views and tell it like it is. The only comfort I can take in this dark time is the fact that Nelson Mandela spent almost 30 years in prison. If he could keep the faith for that long and come out ready to fight for what he believed in then we can do it for 4 years. We got this!

  • Melinda Z.

    Thank you for writing this, Annie. I needed to read this this morning. I, too, have been crying on and off and calling and texting loved ones to offer and accept support. My heart is absolutely broken, but your message is an important one- we are allowed to take this time to grieve and express our feelings. We are allowed to be angry and confused. We need to remember why we feel this way, and let OUR collective love shine brighter than the hate that brought about these election results. Keep up all of your amazing work. You are so loved and appreciated.

  • Maral

    Hi,

    Thank you so much for posting this! I live in New York, and it’s extremely scary how I am hearing stories of hate, misogyny and bigotry increasing virtually overnight, even in a fairly liberal city and state. We must be allies and continue to educate in light of this decision.

    Much of my gripe with the situation also falls on society’s complacency. I, too, fear the system of checks and balances is not enough to keep this man at bay.
    I’m really appreciative of you using your platform as a blogger in Indiana to discuss this very important election cycle. It’s one of the most important things anyone can do right now.

  • NancyS

    Thank you for this wonderful post. There are so many things that scare me with the election of Donald Trump and the potential damage that the republicans can do with control of the house and senate. Potential damage and changes that could seriously impact the country for years to come. Given this, the low percentage of Americans who actually voted is tragic. Don’t people understand this is a responsibility of being a citizen, even if you’re not wild about the candidates? My mother passed away last month, at age 88, but she was happy that she was able to cast her vote for a woman candidate (via absentee ballot) before passing.
    I hope that what Donald trump said is true – he wants to be a president of all the people – and that he’s actually capable of doing so.

  • Julie

    In reading all of this, I would love to know how a parent and especially a mother could have such a hatred for Trump and love for a woman who thinks it’s okay to kill and abort babies at 36 weeks….do I agree with everything Trump says, heck no, was he my choice in the primaries, well no. Did I support him after said primaries….yes, because as a mother and having friends who have precious children who were born at 20 something weeks, who are living and thriving with absolutely nothing wrong with them now, and then having several friends who are not able to have children because of one reason or another….I am sorry but that TRUMPS more than all this other mess. Mrs. Clinton did nothing to help save those four Americans…does that not mean anything to you? Mrs. Clinton did not care that she was deleting and destroying thousands of documents that she destroyed illegally. There has never been as much rioting and hatred in this country as there is after 8 years of Obama. My paycheck, yes I get up and go to work every day and work to help pay my bills, and yes I am a college graduate actually post graduate, and I have never paid as much in taxes as I do now, nor has my insurance EVER been as high as it is now since Obamacare came into being. So what do I look for in the future under Trump, him to come in and put a stop to ignorance, the bigotry, the hatred and the rioting. Is everyone going to agree, no but that is the beauty of living in this great nation. But do we need to take up strong opinions and not look at the other person’s opinions, no I don’t think so. Am I adding fuel to the fire…I don’t know. I just don’t understand why so many people think things are okay as they are now and don’t look for change in the future under new leadership. I think Trump is a smart man, my goodness look how many times he has come back from bankruptcy stronger than he was the last time. Finally, I feel that all of the Clinton supporters need to heed what she said in her speech yesterday, we are all AMERICANS and we need to stand together. You may not agree but we need to stand together.

  • Sarah Bash Hough

    Thank you for having the courage to say this. So many of us are right where you are. This is a hard moment but we will roar back.

  • Becky

    I’m sorry this has saddened you so much. I do love your recipes and have tried a few with great success! I honestly took Trump as a joke before the primaries. But when it came down to Hillary and Trump, I had to vote the lesser of two evils, and Trump won there. I voted with the issues that were important to me. Religious freedom, right to life for unborn babies (partial-birth abortion y’all? completely abominable). When I found out Hillary was not president, I shouted for joy. Just as Trump was a threat to many, Hillary was a threat to a different group of people. I’m a mom, a conservative, white, college-educated female. I would’ve voted for a female president, had she represented what I think is important. I’m pretty sure many others who are reading are also in my boat. Even though we disagree on politics and have different belief systems, I hope, just as you do, that we can still treat each other with kindness and respect.

  • Dena Snyder

    Thank you for your brave and beautiful words. I couldn’t have said it better myself. Yesterday, my overwhelming feeling was of shock, horror, and devastation. Today, I dust myself off and realize that the work begins now. As a woman and a Jew I do feel some fear but I am able to recognize my privilege that I will be safer and less in harms way than other minority groups I care about. So I commit myself for being a vocal ally and standing with folks who are LGBT, undocumented, Hispanic, Muslim, etc. For those of us who believe so firmly that Love Trumps Hate, we must be ready to work our fingers to the bone to protect the rights of the most vulnerable amongst us.

    I have been with you on the blog since 2007 and have probably made 90% of your recipes. They will all taste more delicious to me now knowing your commitment to values of decency and equality. Thank you for using your power for good. I really respect this choice.

  • Laura

    Thank you for speaking your mind, Annie. Your honesty and positivity are much appreciated.

  • Annie

    You would do very well to educated yourself on abortion. The matter is nowhere near as black and white as the way you present it, and believing that abortions are performed at 36 weeks is absurd. If ever, it is an incredible rarity. You have bought into anti-choice propaganda that the campaign successfully wielded, but the realities of abortion are far from what you imagine. I recommend the book Pro by Katha Politt, though I expect you will not bother to read it. Whether you agree with abortion or not, I do not believe that you should impose your view of it on someone else. A woman’s body is her own, not yours, mine, or the government’s to control. If you do not agree with abortion, do not have one, but I do not believe you should stop others from obtaining them safely.

    What is most illustrative from your comment is that nowhere in my post did I address abortion. The fact that you are able to allow and excuse such hatred from a candidate simply because he might outlaw legal abortion (which will not stop abortion, of course) is what terrifies me. You prioritize the personhood of a not yet person over an actual living person. If my daughter ever reaches a point in her life when she needs or desires an abortion, I want her to be able to make that choice on her own, not hindered by countless roadblocks put in place by lobbyists and politicians. People who frame abortion as the “easy way out” are far off base. There is nothing easy about it. Being a mother myself has absolutely nothing to do with it. Yes, I have children who I love more than anything and yet I still fully support each woman’s right to privacy and control over whether and when she becomes a mother, particularly since those same people forcing her to have a child typically do not favor services and assistance to support the child or mother once it is born. I believe and data supports that that makes for a much healthier society and economy. Read the book if you would like to discuss this further.

  • Annie

    Thank you Sarah.

  • Annie

    Thank you Laura.

  • Annie

    Thank you so very much Dena.

  • Annie

    To me, the notion that partial birth abortion which is unbelievably exceedingly rare (but was a highly effective marketing tool for Trump’s campaign) could override the humanity of large groups of living people and allow their marginalization is unfathomable. I understand that many feel this way but they would do well to educate themselves on the actual realities of abortion in our society and not simply on anti-choice propaganda.

  • Annie

    Thank you Nancy. I sincerely hope so too. Only time will tell.

  • Annie

    Thank you Maral.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Bri.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Amy.

  • Annie

    Thank you so very much Melinda.

  • Annie

    Thank you so, so much Lauren. I have always appreciated your readership and your support. We’ll get through this together!

  • disqus_6O5KPibRBP

    I absolutely understand why you don’t like Donald Trump. However, I believe I can speak for many who do NOT understand being a “proud supporter” of Hillary Clinton. Everyone I personally know does not care for EITHER one, and voted with a sick stomach. The “proud supporters” of Hillary might be just as troubling to Trump voters, as Trump voters are to them.

  • Annie

    I understand that perspective. What I express here is not dismay that more were not proud Hillary supporters. That isn’t really my point.

  • Christine Wells

    ❤️

  • Carolyn Bensky Campeau

    I am an American Jewish woman who has lived in Canada for almost 46 years but I still vote every 4 years for President of the United States. I have always been a proud American and even through the years that the President was not my choice, I was still willing to defend the country I was born in. Unfortunately I can’t say that now. I also cannot understand how someone that has belittled women, the LBGTQ community, minorities and the disabled community can ascend to the highest office in the USA. My hope is that the members of Congress, Democrat and Republican, have the strength of conviction to ensure that what is right for the USA is chosen and that party lines are not as important as what is best for all Americans.

    Thank you for speaking up and saying what so many of us have been saying.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Carolyn.

  • chirpygirl

    Really well said, Annie. Thank you for this. Love and light to you and your family!

  • Tania

    I’ll be unsubscribing from your blog as I’m sure I won’t be the only one. This is a platform meant for the shared interest that is spending time in the kitchen and enjoying (my hobby) baking and cooking for friends and families. I disagree immensely that you use your blog as a platform for your personal political views. Politics are personal. I will follow others that stick to the love of food, cooking and baking. I have been disappointed with elections before, but you accept the result and hope for the best. I hope you will too, it’s part of life. It’s what the people of this country want. That’s the best part about our country, opinions and voices matter. Your comments should have been posted somewhere else, not here. That is just my opinion. You are good at what you do and I have enjoyed your recipes, but here we part ways. Best of luck.

  • HJ

    Thank you so much for posting this. I have never cried over election and it breaks my heart whenever reality hits me. Trump brings the hatred out of us, but I do have to remember LOVE TRUMPS HATE. Thank you again, Annie!

  • ellysaysopa

    No, shame on you for denigrating a child’s feelings and fears.

  • Annie

    My blog is just that – mine. I can use it to write about whatever topics I see fit. It is freely available to those who want to read it but you have not paid me. I am beholden to you in no way. Read it or don’t. That is your prerogative, just as writing whatever I like is mine.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much.

  • Annie

    Thank you very much!

  • Anne Alesauskas

    While I appreciate your post and your well spoken thoughts, I for one am so thankful that we are turning a page and righting the ship, while Donald Trump may not be a tactful person, and I’m not saying I agree with everything that he has done or said, having someone who is outside the political community is just what we need to Make America Great Again, we have wallowed for far too many years. Thank you for letting me voice my opinion. I come from a highly Democratic state that overwhelmingly turned RED on Tuesday night, that is saying something.

    May I also say, that I have deleted so many people that I have followed from blogs, to Facebook to Instagram because they were so opposite of everything that I stand for. After following your blog for many years, I will not be doing that today because I feel that we all have a right to our own opinions and thoughts and I respect what you have said.

  • Becky

    For me, the humanity of the millions of children who have no voice and are aborted is more important to stand up for than those who can stand up for themselves. I think for myself, thank you. By the way, most women who choose abortion feel they have NO choice. Pro-lifers are giving more “choices” than pro-choice advocates. Might be good to do some of your own research. :) Obviously, this is not the blog for me. Wish you the best!

  • Annie

    So just to be clear, you feel we have a right to our opinions but you will no longer follow me because I expressed mine?

  • Anne Alesauskas

    NO, you read it wrong, I have deleted so many others, but I am not deleting yours because I feel you were very well spoken in your thoughts and your opinions, while others were not, sorry for the confusion!!

  • Annie

    Oh okay, I was definitely confused. Thank you very much!

  • Annie

    Thank you.

  • CynicInTheD

    If you don’t like abortions, don’t have one. Period. I’m an attorney and every time a Supreme Court vacancy opens up I am sickened by the fact that the Number One issue people care about is overturning Roe v Wade, especially since so few people actually understand the actual legal basis for the decision and their beliefs are founded solely on religious convictions. This whole country was founded on the principal of seperation of church and state, and religious convictions should not dictate law and interpretations of the constitution.

  • Annie

    AMEN. It is unbelievable to me that people can be so single minded and care about one issue only. And your point of separation of church and state could not be more accurate. It is this scary reality that has led us to this point.

  • Julie

    And I thought I couldn’t love your site any more. Thank you for sharing what many of us are feeling after this election. I have never cried after an election before, but I can’t seem to stop after this one. Our world seems to be filled with too much hate and ignorance. These are dark days for sure.

  • Annie

    Thank you so, so much Julie. I’m with you.

  • Leah

    There is actually an agreement amongst several states. It would guarantee that that state’s Electoral College votes would be given to whomever wins the popular vote. The agreement only takes effect once the number of states who have 270 Electoral College votes have joined. Currently 11 states with 165 votes have joined and 12 additional states with 96 votes have passed it through one House.

    http://www.nationalpopularvote.com/

    And here’s a simple way to write your legislators. I did it!

    http://www.nationalpopularvote.com/tell-your-legislators-support-national-popular-vote

  • WendyAZ

    Thank you for expressing your opinion. I also found myself confused and angry to see Trump elected. I never thought it would really happen. I never liked Hillary and said previously I would never vote for her yet I did. I felt I had to vote Hillary to vote against Trump and his disrespect and hate. I am trying to understand both sides and not be angry with friends and family whom I love that voted for him. Some issues hold more value than others with people… military, immigration, fiscal spending. Understandable and we should all try to respect the differences in opinion. However when a candidate can’t show basic respect and decency to other humans then they are unfit for President. Myself, like you, feel like this crosses a line in our value system and supersedes all the other issues. It makes me sad that it does not hold the same value with other people.

    I love your blog and have been a fan for many years. I will continue to be. Thank you for all the years!

  • Anne Alesauskas

    Thank you also, for posting my message, as others have not!

  • Annie

    Thank you Leah! I will definitely contact my legislators and encourage friends to do so as well.

  • Annie

    Thank you very much Wendy!

  • Annie

    Of course! I think engaging in discussion is the best thing we can do right now. Thus far, I have only deleted one comment on the basis of its level of hate with little I could intelligently respond to. This person has now resorted to harassing me via email. Sigh.

  • Anne Alesauskas

    That is so sad, our differences are what make this country great and all opinions should be respected and valued. My hope is that we can all come together through change at some point in the future!

  • WendyAZ

    It is hilarious to me that because you have a blog on the internet people somehow think they have something owed to them or you have an obligation to do what they like! This isn’t a paid cooking/food website. It is a personal blog. sigh

  • freya gamlen

    Thank you so much for writing such a beautifully eloquent post, and, reading the comments below, for responding to hateful or disagreeable comments with such grace. I’m British, but many people I love live in America, and most of them are LGBT or POC, and I’m scared for them. I had nightmares all night, resisting checking social media, that Trump would win, and I woke up to find the nightmares a reality. I wanted to believe that Hillary would win but I never did, because we voted for Brexit, and elected our precious Prime Minister (a conservative) despite polls and coverage previously saying otherwise. Many of us woke up to find the rug ripped from under us the day after our Brexit-referendum, and it has happened again.

    Anyway. Thank you for talking about it, thank you for your grace, just, thank you.

  • Annie

    This has baffled me for years. You have NO idea how many emails I have received from people who disagree with me posting about fashion, books, or anything other than cooking, let alone politics. I always think, I’m so sorry – you get a full refund!

  • Laila

    Annie I’ve loved your blog for years but this post just took it to a completely different level. Thank you so much for posting this insightful, uplifting and emotional piece. I cannot tell you how devastated me, my family, my friends and my community have been by the outcomes of this election. But it’s seeing that we are not the only ones who feel this disappointment is what gives us hope. In a time like this where it seems like we’re drowned in a din of angry voices with bullies shoving around minorities and the privileged elite disqualifying what each individual has to offer both as a human and a citizen of this nation, it’s all too easy to fall into despair. But we have to pick ourselves up and recognize we have a strength no demagogue or bully, no matter his rank, could ever have: our hearts and our morals. And if the voices of bigotry and anger speak loudly in this country now, then the voices of acceptance and rationality should speak even louder.

  • comovie

    Well said. Like you I’ve spent the last 24 hours in shock. One candidate was endorsed by politicians on both sides, by diplomats, by generals, by scientists, and by economists. The other, by the KKK. It’s unthinkable we elected the second one. I’ve heard that President Obama intends to dedicate himself to changing the state houses, which will help end the gerrymandering that has made Congress so far right. A change at that level will have profound effects on our future. And in the meantime we need to be vigilant in supporting women, Hispanics, Muslims, the disabled, and everyone else that was used as a punch line in his campaign.

  • Christina

    Anne, thank you for taking the time do respond. I am not white nor college educated and I couldn’t have said it better myself. Thank you. I too wish everyone only the best.

  • Charlier57

    Good Morning Annie!

    I hear and share your sorrow.
    I’m Canadian but when I heard Trump had gotten in as President, I felt like someone had sucker punched me. To me it’s like Satan has just taken over.
    I wanted to cry, at what it may mean to our countries relations.
    So much this man is like Hitler and I just pray to God that He will mend what is broken and evil about him.
    My heart is with all Americans today that want a free, multicultural equality, a country that considers all with compassion.
    You all have my prayers.

  • Annie

    “So much this man is like Hitler”. THIS. This is what terrifies me and what we should be scared of. Not even 48 hours after he secured the nomination, hate crimes and hate acts have spiked. It is unthinkable. Thank you for caring.

  • Annie

    Laila, thank you so much for your kind words.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much. Well said on your part as well.

  • Annie

    Thank you very much Freya. Your words are much appreciated.

  • Leah

    I’m going to make a commitment to send a letter to my legislators to join the National Poular Vote movement every month on the 8th just so I don’t forget how furious I am about this election. I didn’t do anything after the Gore/Bush election and I’m ashamed about that. I’m not going to let that happen again.

    http://www.nationalpopularvote.com/

    #MakeEveryVoteMatter

  • Maryann Parris

    Thank you for this!!! Keep up the good fight. My biggest fear for Democrats/progressives is to give up the fight. We may not be represented now in Congress or the White House, but there is another election in 2 years. Trump has 2 years to prove he can make things better with the help of Congress. If he fails, we can elect progressives to Congress and give him the same fight Republicans have been giving Obama. Democrats have to come together as a party and stand strong.

  • thatchicchick

    Thank you, Annie. Women aren’t choosing to just have an abortion at 36 weeks because they feel like it. That’s ludicrous. Late-term abortions are done in extreme cases, where the mother’s health is at risk, the baby has already died in the womb, or the baby’s life is not viable outside of the womb. I can’t imagine how traumatizing it would be to have to deal with this situation as a mother. Then add on the insane stress of having to pay tens of thousands of dollars for the procedure, the actual physical pain and recovery, fear for your own life, jumping through hoops – and then the emotional trauma of not having the baby you wanted. Anyone who is concerned about when – and why – late-term abortions are actually performed should read first-hand accounts, like this: https://www.bustle.com/articles/190684-i-had-a-late-term-abortion-and-donald-trump-has-absolutely-no-idea-what-that-means

  • Annie

    THANK YOU.

  • Brandye Scotton

    I, too, am disappointed in Trump. But I’m not a fan of Clinton either. I can honestly say that I really didn’t want her to be the first woman president. I’ve been going around for months thinking, is this really the best we could do from BOTH parties????

    So yesterday, I put on my big girl panties and googled “women governors 1996-2016.” I found a list of women from across the political spectrum. I’m vetting the list to find those who might consider running, that don’t have all the baggage and trust problems of Clinton, that can be someone that we can truly “show-off” to our daughters. Now, being a governor is not the only path to the White House. It’s just where I started looking. Truly, there are many other places to look.

    I’m older than you…a child of the 70s. I remember, sort of, the marches and Gloria Steinem being interviewed all the time. I literally NEVER thought that I couldn’t be president, or anything else, because I was a girl. My parents always taught me that being uneducated is what holds people back, not gender or race. I’m kind of surprised we haven’t had a female president, or a hispanic one. So, no, I do not think this sets feminism back even a step.

    Also, since I’m older, I know that this, too, will pass. Our country is SO MUCH TOUGHER than whoever sits in the oval office. At this point, I’m willing to give Trump a chance (because what else can we do?). Let’s see if his business acumen can help our economy. THEN, in 4 short years, we can all see if his contract deserves to be renewed.

  • Priya

    I have loved this blog for so many years, and with these words I’m not sure how I can love something like a blog as much as I do right now. You are a woman of so many skills, talents, and passion and I have admired your courage and strength. Thank you so much for spreading love, logic, intelligence, and poise through this post and your responses to comments on both sides of this current event. I was fearful to proudly state my political views this election season for fear of Trump supporters, but I have vowed I will never feel fear about my opinions and feelings. Thank you for expressing yours in this very public forum and for encouraging everyone to engage in intelligent discourse regardless of their side of support.
    Much love to you and your family Annie!!

  • PhilosopherJules

    I really wish people would understand the reality of third trimester abortion. You don’t do it because you don’t want a baby, you do it because your child will suffer. I ask you to read this interview with a woman who had a third trimester abortion to save her child from pain and suffering. Please remember that when you support a total ban, you’re forcing women like her to watch her child live a miserable few years and die.
    http://jezebel.com/interview-with-a-woman-who-recently-had-an-abortion-at-1781972395

  • Annie

    Thank you, thank you again.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Priya. Your kind reply means more than you know.

  • Annie

    Thank you Maryann!

  • Annie

    Excellent idea!

  • Brandye Scotton

    For me, medicine has come to a point where premature infants are being saved at earlier and earlier stages of gestation. That is why my opinion on the matter has changed. It is not a church/state issue; it is a medical issue. Not all of us that are pro-life use religion as a basis for our stand.

  • Annie

    That is a personal view, not a medical opinion. It is an incredibly simplistic view of a highly complex, multi-faceted issue that spans so many areas and so much more beyond fetal viability. Simplistic views are easy to cling to and hold up for all to see, but much more thought about the implications and the vast and far reaching consequences of limiting access to abortion is needed.

  • Annie

    This kind of misses my point, I think. Feminism is a separate topic that, while highly relevant in this race, is not what I address here. I am less concerned with Trump the individual as I am with the strategies he employed to win the election. His message has emboldened people to freely behave in a racist, misogynistic and bigoted manner. Hate acts and crimes already are spiking less than 48 hours after his win. THAT is why this is bigger than just “putting on my big girl panties” and that is why I felt compelled to speak up in the first place.

  • Erica Monteabaro

    Thank you for your words, so similar to the dialogue that I have been having with my loved ones in the aftermath. As I went through the stages of grief, I moved into action and encouraged my friends to do the same. We donated yesterday to the Human Rights Campaign, to Planned Parenthood, to so many organizations that need our support more than ever. We pledged volunteer hours and we encouraged others to do the same. Our vote is only one tool we have to stand up and make our voices heard. I also purchased multiple prints of my favorite quote from Hillary’s speech yesterday (“Never doubt that you are valuable and powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world”) to send to my friends’ daughters. Perfect Salt Studio on Etsy has the print to purchase for download and through November 13, 100% of every sale of the print goes to The
    National Sexual Violence Resource Center and American Civil Liberties
    Union. I plan to hang ours in between my son’s and daughter’s rooms. Her message yesterday is one I want both of my children to hear and to believe.

  • Brandye Scotton

    I’m sorry you took my comment as a slight. That was not my intention. I agree that there are many levels to what has happened, and who the candidates are. That was just my attempt to share how I am getting past it, and looking for ways to move forward.

  • tara

    thank you for this ! i just sent my email. i noted that the electoral college polarizes us state against state and does more to divide us than unite us.

  • Annie

    Thank you Erica, both for your words and putting your feelings into action. I plan to do the same. We, and our children, will be the change.

  • Brandye Scotton

    Coming from a family full of medical professionals, I assure you that my thoughts on this matter have evolved over time. Yes, where a fetus, a mother, or an infant are concerned, there are medical implications. I am many things. Simplistic is not one.

  • maggie

    I’ll echo the comments here, and say thank you for expressing this. I felt (and feel) the same way- shock and utter dispair, particularly when I realized that checks and balances won’t help as all three branches will have a majority. I come from a conservative family who proudly waved Trump signs despite knowing that I experienced sexual assault of the exact nature Trump bragged about. They know that my rare cancer diagnosis means if ACA is appealed, I’ll be looking at lifetime caps and a preexisting condition. I feel sick at how people I love can care so little about those of different colors and religions. I am disheartened that I’ll have to explain to my toddler boys why our president is not a role node for them, not at all. I can’t believe this is our reality.

    The only things giving me hope are that I do feel there are some republicans who will use their brains and hearts, and will put a stop to bigotry in its most overt forms (a Muslim registry is certainly not constitutional…), and surely half of his other ridiculous campaign claims will not hold water. He can’t just decide to imprison Hillary. There’s no way Mexico is paying for that wall. And that it is 4 years. It is not a dictatorship and so we can get rid of him in time. Hopefully the 8 preceding years of goodness will stand tall during this fight.

    Heavy eye roll at the people whining that you used your personal blog to express a personal opinion.

  • Annie

    I’m referring to implications beyond the medical realm, but your view is clearly set.

  • Annie

    I didn’t take it as a slight necessarily, but I have received a lot of feedback essentially saying “get over it” and my point was only that while we should get over the loss, there are many parts of this we should not get over. Your comment was thoughtful and appreciated, no offense taken!

  • tara

    just throwing out there….Hillary won the popular vote…so it seems to me that what the people actually want is her ! not by much mind you and i’m not saying i refuse to accept the results i know what our system is set up like and i accept it for what it is. but just saying….

  • PhilosopherJules

    I’m 38 weeks pregnant, I already love my daughter. But if tomorrow, I was told she had something like Tay-Sachs or the any number of other congenital disorders that meant her time on earth would be spent in pain and we would watch her suffer before dying, I hope that I would be able to put her first and end her pain before it begins.

  • Colleen Miceli

    It saddens me that you resorted to name-calling. Half of the country apparently have a different view than you do about many issues in the country, and rather than try to see another point of view, many people on the left just take the easy way out–they name-call. I wonder how many people you know and have had a serious conversation with who did not vote your way this election. I’m assuming there are some–if so, would you classify them as bigots? If not, then please extend the same courtesy to the rest of us. I disagree with almost everything in your post–I think you very much misunderstand and so misrepresent the views of my half of the country; yet notice, I did not and would not call you any derogatory name. One of the Deplorables…

  • Brandye Scotton

    I am saying is that medicine cannot be separated from the issue. Yes, my view is set. As is yours. Just between you and I, I think we are closer than your replies to me indicate. I am a fiscal conservative, but a social progressive on most issues. I work with immigrant children, including one that is transgender. I do not think I have ever been “all in” for a candidate in any election since I became eligible to vote, national or local.

  • kwin

    Thank you for this! In addition to the things you mention, something that struck me hard during this campaign season was how little regard was held for truth or facts. I continue to be gobsmacked at the quick dismissal of facts based on one’s opinion or a blatant denial of the truth. I hope that we can become a more intelligent and thoughtful society (in general but also before the next election.) I’ve been trying to think about positive ways to move forward and do my part to effect change. The first and most important thing is to speak up more. I am passionate about many issues but often silent because I don’t like the conflict. I need to get over it. So thanks for speaking up even though it made you uncomfortable. It’s encouraging me to do the same.

  • Anne

    How so? Just because I value Annie’s (and your) opinion doesn’t mean I will have a substantive debate when the entire vent sesh begins with spewing judgments about me being ashamed of how I voted.

    My post was limited to explaining my disappointment in people judging Trump voters, and for that reason, I was not going to waste my time having a substantive discussion to explain my views.

    People who understand the distinction wouldn’t label it hypocrisy, which is yet another judgment. . .Thanks for proving my point.

  • Maureen Saxe

    Yeah, I knew you’d remove my post, LOL. Typical liberal

  • Melissa Vasquez

    I will be sharing this etsy store- thank you.

  • Stacey Parham

    I agree wholeheartedly. Can we start doing something by getting rid of the electoral college? I’m sure it was a great idea in 1776 but certainly it’s been unnecessary for the last century or so. People in other countries must be baffled by the concept that the person who gets the most votes in America doesn’t always win. Everyone’s vote should count, no matter where you live—and as someone who lives in a battleground state and is subjected to a maelstrom of political ads I am ready to share the wealth. The electoral college is now an artifice used to thwart the will of the American people.

  • Sarah W

    Thank you Annie! Beautifully written. I am very saddened that we elected a person who acted like that and a Vice President who seems pretty much against anyone who is not a straight, white male. My 9 year old woke up disappointed by the results and asked how a bully could be president? We told him that we didn’t understand either. We talked about how we need to treat everyone with respect, even if we disagree and the importantance of voting in every election. While eating supper he said he would like to be the 50th president to make sure bullies are not elected again.

  • Annie

    What post? I haven’t removed any.

  • Annie

    Oh, I see, I hadn’t even replied yet but you were already certain I deleted your comment. Was busy at work doing my job but my my, you were quick to jump to conclusions. I won’t even engage in your comment. It isn’t at a level that deserves an intelligent reply. You greatly oversimplify many complex issues. However, I think the tone of your writing does highly qualify you to work for Fox News. Best to you.

  • Annie

    I certainly did not say, nor do I think, that every person who voted for Trump is a bigot. What I have said (and said and said and said) is that Trump gained popularity with his personal bigoted rhetoric, which in turn has emboldened a level of free hatred and bigotry toward numerous minority groups. I did not name call but did name a behavior exhibited a significant number of his supporters (though yes, I know, not all of them), and one that has been increasingly and alarmingly visible since he won. You did name call however, directly after you said you would not. “One of the deplorables.”

  • Annie

    Thank you Maggie. I’m saddened to hear of your family voting that way, particularly knowing of how many issues can affect you directly. I’ll be hoping for the best with you, and hoping it is a short four years.

  • Annie

    It seems a situation where many repeat an opinion often enough (or hear it repeated enough, such as from conservative news outlets), they regard it as fact. It is a sad day. I hope there are better times ahead. Thanks for your reply.

  • Annie

    I agree! Though unlikely to happen when the Republican party has total control.

  • Annie

    Thank you Sarah. I am struggling with the same things in my household. This is not easy.

  • Aimee

    This!!! My goodness. If you wanted to post a different cat picture every single day for the next year, that’s your choice as the owner of this platform. You are beholden to anyone but your own damn self.

  • Anne

    Annie, I think you said it well here. People expected, based on your post history, that this was a professional blog (i.e. did not comment on divisive issues). You’ve clarified that this is a personal blog, and I think that’s helpful to readers.

    I’m glad that you clarified how you view your blog – although I don’t know if I would have distinguished yours from other shiny, spotless, and conflict free blogs. It implies that this blog is dull, dirty and divisive…

    The fact that you post on more than professional cooking and may post on conflict-related issues isn’t on your Home or About Me page, so I think that clarification is helpful to readers who may or may not want to subscribe. Well said above.

  • Annie

    True, it doesn’t present that way on the very surface. I am transitioning the blog in coming months to more of a lifestyle focus anyway, and the new platform will better make room for the many types of content I plan to cover. Food will still be the majority but the rest will be better portrayed and the message and feel will make more sense to everyone.

  • Anne

    Given that there are more Dems than Republicans in America, Hillary actually should have won the popular vote by a larger margin, so the popular vote argument is not much of an argument…

  • Hannah M

    Thank you for this post. I have many words, yet none at all but at the very least wanted to let you know that you are not alone in your sentiments.

  • RachDm

    Perhaps if Hilary had spent her final election days visiting states like Michigan and Ohio (as Trump did) instead of schmoozing and having concerts with Katy Perry she would have won. Normally blue states turned red that night for a reason. To say that people we’re “ashamed” of their vote based on the online polls is really pretentious. Perhaps instead, people under the age of 35 are not partaking in online voting? Have you forgotten about that age bracket?

  • Rhyann B.

    Thank you for sharing your opinion. You expressed your feelings in such an intelligent and thoughtful way, and it’s a breath of fresh air to read your blog after the chaos of this election. As a longtime reader, I admire all of the wonderful dishes you create, but now I also admire the opinions you share here. It takes a tremendous amount of courage. As a side note, I’m a fan of the non-food posts :)

  • Brenda

    Hi Annie! Love you and your blog and will continue to love you, but I disagree with you on this one. I feel like both candidates were equally flawed. Some chose Hillary and some chose the Donald. I saw more social media posts from Hillary supporters inciting hate and division and attacking not Donald, but his supporters. Not to mention the predictions of doom and gloom if Hillary was not elected. But there’s this segment of America that has seen their income stagnate or even decrease. They’ve had 8 years of policies similar to Hillary. And 8 years of Republican policies before that. They wanted a change. They spoke and got what they wanted. Let’s all hope it works out well.

    Also I hope you were as prepared to tell your children about Hillary’s flaws had she won as you seem to have told them about the Donald’s. Hers are not minor flaws either. She put national security at risk for her personal convenience, if not for her personal gain. She was given an unfair advantage in the debate.

    Please tell them that your media is just as biased as the conservative media. And please give them hope that the government will work as it was intended.

  • Angela

    That was an intense amount of vitriol, Maureen and I hope that you find a constructive outlet for your feelings that is neither name calling or stereotyping. I am chagrin to admit I could not find any “screaming and crying” in Annie’s post, but perhaps my liberal eyes are too clouded with unshed tear. No matter. Please don’t drop your malice here anymore. This was so far beyond unkind as to be hateful and that is exactly what we liberals are against, exactly what Annie was calling for to end in this post. Disagreement is healthy and important, as is inclusion. This stretches comfortably to those that are different than us.

    Your sincerely, a liberal who is still paying on her student loans, who does pays taxes, working in the private sector, as well and wishing so much to be in aforementioned fantasyland.

  • Annie

    You miss the point entirely. This has almost nothing to do with my post.

  • Annie

    Thank you Hannah.

  • Annie

    Thank you very much Rhyann.

  • Lucy

    Thank you for posting this!
    My 10 year old daughter cried when she found out Trump won the election. I have had MANY discussions regarding bigotry, homophobia, sexism, racism, poverty, small-mindedness, etc. with her. We live in Mississippi, where conversations like this are frequently necessary. But my child’s intelligence, open-mindedness, big-heartedness, and optimism give ME hope for the future, as I’m sure your children do for you.

  • Annie

    You saw liberals wanting to attack whites? White men? Christians? Where? I hadn’t seen those hate messages yet. (I am legitimately asking. I have not seen this.) All I have seen is people who want minority groups to not be marginalized and discriminated against. I have not seen that impinge on the lives of Trump supporters.

    Everyone has their own opinion of Hillary and I do not share yours. I have no intention of painting any candidate untruthfully or as perfect to my children. Studies have been done regarding people’s opinions of her, how many negative opinions are not founded in actual fact, and are nearly impossible to change no matter what evidence is presented to the contrary. I’ll leave that for someone else to unpack.

    And obviously I plan to give them hope, just as I did in this post. I am entitled to my views and feelings about the election just as you are yours.

  • Annie

    Yes! It gives me great optimism and that is something we can cling to right now.

  • RachDm

    Actually is does. You asked how it was “possible” that Trump won. He won because Hilary did zero campaigning to middle class workers in these critical (almost always blue, I should also point out) states and it cost her the election (Michigan, Ohio, Etc…). If she had spent more time rallying and getting to know people in these critical states (as Trump did) maybe she would have won. While Trump was giving a speech in Michigan at 1am election morning Hilary was busy trying to look cool in Hollywood with Katy Perry and Beyonce.

  • Erika Robinson

    Fellow Mississippian!!! Glad you’re here making changes with me!

  • Annie

    Yes, I know that it applied in a minor way. I guess it just seems irrelevant because we could talk all day about reasons why it turned out that way. This was not meant to be an inclusive list. And for the record, I do not think that including celebrities in campaigning is a bad strategy across the board, but in this case it probably was not the best option as opposed to, as you said, spending more time in swing states.

  • RachDm

    Thank you – yes that’s my point. Middle class voices we’re not heard or looked at in her campaign.

  • RachDm

    I do think it hindered her cause. It’s hard to believe she was offended by Trumps comments if she is OK hanging out with Jay-Z who openly degrades or says similar things about women in his music. I’m so sad Bernie didn’t run. I think things would have turned out so differently. The fact that Hilary couldn’t beat Trump is so sad. He has to be the easiest running opponent ever in our history to take down.

  • Cara

    “And to all the little girls who are watching this, never doubt that you are valuable and powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and to achieve your own dreams.” Hillary Clinton

    ^^ This has been my driving force since the election to get more involved to spread peace, love, equality, empathy, grace, and hard work. I have never been more inclined to spread love than I have in the last 2 days. Thank you, as always, for using this platform to talk about important causes. While, this election didn’t turn out as I had thought, I think (hope) there is a greater good that will come out of this as it has inspired a lot of people I know to get out there, get more involved, and spread the messages of the love, tolerance, and unity.

  • Annie

    I don’t know that it hindered her cause directly but like I said, I just think the time could have been better spent. I was pretty stunned when I heard she did not visit WI at all. That was disappointing. I think it’s too hard of a line to say she should not associate with JayZ because of the things he says in his raps. I think that choice overall was 1) a poorly thought out strategic move and 2) she was really wanting to associate with Beyonce (a better choice strategically), and JayZ was part of that deal.

    I agree, I was sad Bernie didn’t run. I voted for him in the primaries but I liked Hillary too so I felt good about it either way. I do feel in hindsight he would have been more likely to win in the end and that is hard to swallow now.

  • Annie

    Well said, Cara (and Hillary)!

  • Louise Gerace DePino

    Although I love your recipes. I do not want to hear your political views here. I also have a daughter and a beautiful granddaughter and would not want either of them to have any of Hillary’s traits. It’s time for all of us to stop attacking each other and to come together to heal the rift the Obama’s have created in this country. We’re all Americans and the is our country,

  • Karen

    I completely agree with everything you wrote. I am glad this blog is just one of your hobbies and not your main source of income. So many other bloggers are afraid of controversy. I hope you continue to speak about important issues. I’ve been reading you since Andrew’s second birthday party post and will be a reader for however long you keep this blog going.

  • Sheila Torres

    Your thoughts are mine. I feel as though I never really knew my neighbor or some of my friends because I now know what their hidden beliefs are. He’s made it “ok” for people to hate. Very, very sad time for our country.

  • Annie

    I have said it already, and I will say it again. My blog is just that – mine. I can use it to write about whatever topics I see fit. It is freely available to those who want to read it but you have not paid me. I am beholden to you in no way. Read it or don’t. That is your prerogative, just as writing whatever I like is mine.

    Just because my view is different from yours does not make it wrong and it certainly does not make it an attack. It is my expression of my feelings regarding the election, which I am entitled to just as you are to yours.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Karen.

  • Annie

    Thank you Sheila.

  • Suzanne Davidson

    I almost can’t believe what I read–I must have misunderstood what you wrote. Can you sincerely not see or acknowledge ONE flaw in Hilary Clinton? Considering there is not one person on Earth that is unflawed I’m not sure how this stacks with reality, or were you saying you choose not to face these flaws and inform your children of them?

    Also, are you serious that you are not familiar with ONE example of liberals attacking Christians? The statement is so utterly unbelievable that it serves to invalidate any coherent thought you have spent so much time putting together. You time and again almost lecture people to “study and research” and yet you truly have never come across ONE example? I am happy to provide you with some. “Kirsten Powers, a Democratic pundit, recent convert to Catholicism and author of the book “How the Left Is Killing Free Speech,” said at the event that she does not understand why Muslims can oppose same-sex marriage and not be targeted by the Left for it, but calling out Christians for their beliefs is acceptable.“ The article this is pulled from goes on to site many, many more examples for you.

    When someone wears blinders while supporting a cause, movement or purpose, it typically only serves to destroy their ability to make progress because they erode their own voice due to such extreme bias and refusal to see any other side. Lastly, would you also purport the media was fair and balance? I can site an article from CNN that states the entire profession did themselves a disservice covering this election, but I’m curious if you can even concede that point.

    I, for one, love to hear what all sides think. I enjoy conducting research and making informed and balanced decisions. It’s hard to come across as balanced or informed when you make extreme statements like, “You saw liberals wanting to attack whites? White men? Christians? Where? I hadn’t seen those hate messages yet. (I am legitimately asking. I have not seen this.)” It would take you little time googling to find your answer. Just as it would take little time to find such examples of conservatives.

  • Mary Cooley Fulton

    What do you say to my handicapped brother who our president elect so graciously imitated and made fun of. I guarantee that if you had a disabled child, sister, brother… you would think he is about as disgusting as it gets. Try talking to your children about this. How can you possibly vote for someone who is so infantile?

  • Suzanne Davidson

    Also, I would be remiss if I forgot to point you to the indefensible rioting that is taking place by supporters of Hilary Clinton–the phrases on many of the signs alone include rhetoric I will not mention. I can’t imagine you would ever defend those actions.

    Please don’t tell me I’m missing the point because I’ve already been able to conclude that is your “go-to” phrase for when you don’t have anything you can say.

  • tamara millo

    I’ve been unnerved all year by how Trump’s messages of misogyny and racism have resonated with my fellow Americans. Thank you for taking a public stand against the darkness on YOUR blog.

  • Annie

    It seems you are going a little off the rails with intensity, so I’ll keep this brief as possible. Yes, Clinton has flaws. Everyone does. However, I really like her and support her. One of her biggest flaws in my own eyes are that she is not quite progressive enough for me, but I’m sure you don’t consider that valid because it isn’t the flaw YOU see in her. Pot — kettle.

    I said *I* had not seen examples of liberals attacking Christians. That is true. Questioning religion, disagreeing with religion, sure. I’ve never seen attacks. That doesn’t mean they haven’t occurred and I said no such thing. To me the example you provided isn’t an attack at all. It is a disagreement. You disagree with me, quite vehemently. Is it an attack? Also, I consider what any religion thinks of gay marriage entirely irrelevant since, thanks to separation of church and state that should exist, the question isn’t whether it is religiously correct but constitutional.

    I know that all media is biased and slanted in one way or another. I made no claims to the contrary. Calm down. Once again, I have legitimately never seen hate targeted specifically at whites for being white, at white men for being white men, etc. Disagreement is not the same as an attack. I will leave it there.

  • Annie

    I have not rioted, nor suggested anyone should do so. I do support the right of everyone to peaceful protest. I have not seen the signs you refer to but I believe you when you say they are bad.

    It seems that you are very angry that approximately half of the country disagrees with you, and you are directing your anger towards me for expressing my opinion because I am a part of that group. It is time to let this go, or move on to a more appropriate target for your vitriol.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Tamara.

  • Suzanne Davidson

    You don’t know me, but you can assume you know what flaws I see in Clinton? I was referring to character flaws, not policy flaws by the way–to borrow your phrase, you missed the point entirely. It seems you will stick to the notion she has no ill character flaws.

    It also seems you ignored the riots as examples of the very things you insist no liberal takes part in? I’m not going to site and pull out every reference in an article–the article went on to very intelligently lay out why it’s accepted to attack Christians but not Muslims. And yes it said attack, not disagree.

    You seem to say my intensity is too high, but it’s only because you make such black and white statements, it’s actually much more hilarious than anything else.

    Perhaps you have never personally seen an example of anything of the above things you mentioned is because you live in a state full of wonderful people who would never do such thing–odd given your state was full of Trump supporters.

  • Allie

    So you are saying that it is okay for Jay Z to make absolutely offensive, mysoginistic comments about women in his raps that millions of people listen too and are influenced by, but not trump. The things Trump said were disgusting but do not try to excuse others with the same disgusting rhetoric.
    Hillary also has said so many disrespectful, racist comments toward latinos and don’t get me started on her husbands treatment of women and how she stood by him and threatened women for personal gain. I did not approve of Trump or Hillary and would never want my children to look up to either one! Let’s be fair and balanced if we are going to criticize anyone!

  • Lisa K.

    Annie, Thank you for your wonderful blog. This was a wonderful, brave, and compassionate post. Your words echoed what has been in my heart since hearing the result of this election. Let us move forward with love!

  • Caitlin

    I have enjoyed your blog and recipes for many years now. I even feel a little bit like you! I’m a doctor (still a resident) and I love to cook and work out. I’ve never commented before, but I felt I had to express my support given some of the vitriolic comments here. Thank you for expressing your views! I wholeheartedly agree. It saddens me to my very core that this man has been elected. While Hillary is certainly not perfect, she is hardworking and earnest and respectful of people, facts and the truth. Trump is none of those things. The fact that his views on women and immigrants have moved into the mainstream and are not completely rejected is tragic. We must continue to fight the idea that his behavior and ideas are acceptable, because they absolutely are not.

    And as a doctor, I hope that all the hateful rhetoric against Obamacare can come to end. I’ve heard a lot of the problems with it, which is undeniable. However I am also heartbroken when seeing someone in the hospital without insurance. Somehow the human cost of not having insurance has been lost in the rhetoric from the Republicans.

    I’ll continue to be an avid fan!

  • Annie

    You make statements about Hillary’s character as though you know her personally. The only assumption I made about the flaws you do or do not see in Clinton was that I doubted you would find her policies not progressive enough. It was a natural extension of logic based on your arguments about gay marriage and religion, but I suppose maybe you do wish she were more progressive. It is possible.

    I have not personally seen or read accounts of violent attacks against whites or Christians for being such. I am not ignoring the existence of riots but if nonviolent, they can be a form of protest. Maybe I have been exceedingly lucky in who and what I have encountered in my world. I know what I have seen and what I have not. You do not need to insist otherwise.

    Attack and disagreement are not the same, though you use the words interchangeably. That is precisely why you have become so agitated at my expressing my opinion here. It is in opposition to your own and therefore, you view it as an attack and as a result feel it deserves an attack-level response. I have engaged in thoughtful discussion with many readers with opposing view points. Our discussion ends here.

  • Annie

    I didn’t say that at all but you leapt to conclusions. A rapper being misogynistic in a song, his artistic creation, is an entirely different matter from a president bragging about actual sexual assault, and later justifying that as acceptable. Misogyny is everywhere. I do not advocate it anywhere, and work to fight it. Sexual assault is never ever okay. While both are bad, the two cannot and should not be presented as equal.

    Hillary’s husband’s actions are a reflection on him, not her. You can view her choice to stay however you like but you weren’t in her shoes or in her marriage so it is quite judgmental and short sighed to assume that the right choice in your eyes (leaving him) was clearly the right choice for her.

  • Suzanne Davidson

    First, I would like to sincerely apologize for becoming too heated or passionate, it was not my intent and not necessary. I do not want me challenging your statements to be viewed as vitriol, but can appreciate how they would be.

    i have never commented on a blog post before, ever. However, just as you viewed this election as different and found it necessary to say something, I viewed this post as different and felt your comments to readers were often condensceing and that you lumping an entire group of people into one category was something I really had to respond to. At the end of the day, I commend you for putting yourself out there and taking a stand, no matter how much I may disagree with your stand. My apologies again.

  • Annie

    Thank you very much Caitlin.

  • Annie

    I never meant to lump any group of people together. I know that not all Trump supporters support him for the same reasons. I know that not everyone feels the way I do about Hillary. My post was merely my attempt to express my feelings about the election and all that has surrounded it, and nothing more. I have not intentionally been condescending and have been entirely exhausted trying to give thoughtful replies to everyone. Thank you for understanding.

  • Annie

    Thank you so much Lisa.

  • Suzanne Davidson

    I will end by saying, I am very impressed with you taking the time to reply to each and every comment. It’s follow through at its finest and shows your conviction! Now I will give you a much needed break. All the best to you!

  • nancy reynolds

    Thank you so much for this. Your words and those of many others are bringing me comfort and hope.

  • Maria McCloud

    Annie, your words are inspiring. I am in complete agreement with all you shared and all you feel. Your post got me thinking on my drive to work early this morning about how I can do my part to make a difference. Sometimes, I feel like one lone soul can’t do much, but then I remember that every action counts, and I began to think about my role as a teacher and how I can impact my students–and how I always strive to. My goal is to model and promote love, kindness, compassion, and tolerance–more so now that ever before. During the summer when I heard the convention speeches, I realized that I could design a unit around the novel 1984 and connect it to the rhetoric used in campaigning. It was a successful unit, opening the eyes and minds of my students to the power and damage that words can cause. So, at first I felt hopeless after the election results, but reading your post made me realize that I am far from helpless when it comes to shaping the minds of the young adults I am privileged to teach. Now I must impart to them a sense of hope that we shall surmount this darkness, for they were grieving and upset as much as the adults around them. I saved your closing quotes to share with them, for it perfectly captures how we must use love to move beyond the state of mind of our nation right now. Many blessings to you for your courage to share, for your role modeling for your children, and for your strength to speak out.

  • Christina Rannow

    So brave. Thank you!!

  • Annie

    Thank you Christina!

  • Annie

    Maria, thank you so very much. That is such a positive and inspiring outlook on how to best move forward. It makes me wish I didn’t spend all day in my office and laboratory! But hopefully my message of love and acceptance can spread through other means, such as here. Thank you again.

  • Annie

    Thank you Nancy.

  • Annie

    Thank you Suzanne!